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It can be difficult to get ahead at work when someone else is always taking credit for what the team does, but what can you do to deal with selfish individuals in a professional manner, how can you be a giver and not get taken advantage of, and how do matchers balance givers and takers? What to Listen For What are 5 minute favors and how can you use them to build a powerful network? How do you deal with selfish personalities who always try to take credit for the success of the team? What can you do if you’re a giver (versus a taker) and you’re struggling to show your value in the workplace? What are matchers and why are they important to balance givers and takers? What would Adam Grant change about “Give and Take” if he were to rewrite it today? What question should you ask a hiring manager to get an actual understanding of a company’s culture? Are extroverts better leaders than introverts? While it’s frowned upon to be a taker, it’s also not great for your own well being to be too much of a giver,

Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit? What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immedia

If you are now working remotely and socially distancing yourself, it doesn’t mean you have to stop being social or let your productivity slide, but what can you do to work on your social skills, grow your network, and knock your productivity out of the park so you can come out the other side of this with countless opportunities? What to Listen For What can you do to work on your social skills when we’re trying to socially isolate ourselves? How do you stay social when going out and meeting people isn’t an option? What can you do to stay focused and energized when working from home? How do you work on building your professional network when more and more conferences and networking events are being cancelled as people embrace social distancing? What can you say when you’re trying to reach out to people you’ve never met but wanted to? How can you be productive when working from home and why is it so important to maintain the same routine you use when at the office? What should you focus on when establish

You don’t need to be in a leadership position in order to be a leader, but what does it mean to be a leader no matter where you are and how can you develop your leadership skills in today’s world? What to Listen For What can we do to become the leaders that are needed during this pandemic? How should we approach the creation of rules and standards in a professional setting and why can it be detrimental if just one person is responsible for such things? Why is it important to live a value-driven life both professionally and personally, and why are values more important than rules? How can an open-door policy in companies be detrimental to productivity and what should you implement in place of it that still allows for open communication? What are the 3 parts we should divide our days into and why can the structure have such a profound impact on our fulfillment and productivity? How can living by a calendar make you more productive than making to-do lists to accomplish the same tasks? What can you do to

Social anxiety has an impact that goes far beyond a discomfort interacting with people and can lead to substance abuse, depression, and suicidal ideation, so what can you do to overcome your social anxiety, how do your diet and physical health impact it, and how is technology playing a significant role in all of this? What to Listen For What is social anxiety and how do we deal with it during COVID-19 when social distancing is important? How do we deal with social anxiety now that social distancing is becoming a normal part of our daily lives? How did Mark Metry overcome his social anxiety and what can you learn from his journey so you can overcome your social anxiety before it ruins your life? How does your gut microbiome influence your social anxiety and mental wellbeing? How can looking at yourself in terms of hardware and software with regards to your self-development journey blow open your perspective on your overall health? Why is it important to tackle social anxiety after you’ve established a s

Rituals are powerful tools cultures have used for all of recorded history to strengthen group bonds, so how do rituals bring us closer, why are rituals so commonly associated with religion, and what can you do to develop your own rituals to bring you and your family and friends closer together? What to Listen For Why is it so important to encourage curiosity in children and what can you do to impart a sense of curiosity in your kids? Why is a tolerance for ambiguity difficult but crucial in the scientific search for knowledge and understanding of the world around us? What was it like growing up as the child of Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan? How do we use rituals to deal with change and how can you use rituals to minimize the suffering you will experience throughout life? What should you say to someone who has just lost a loved one and doesn’t necessarily hold religious beliefs about an afterlife? What rituals can we use to help us cope with painful events in life and why can not having a ritual amplify the

Charisma is not something you are born with, so what can you do to develop your own charisma, what does it even mean to have charisma, and what does the science say about this seemingly abstract human quality? What to Listen For What is charisma and why is it important? What are the three factors that go into being charismatic and what can you do to become more charismatic? Are you born with charisma or is it something you can teach and learn? Why are we drawn to charismatic individuals? How can you stay true to yourself and be charismatic if you don’t feel you’re a charismatic person? How do presence, enthusiasm, and confidence play a role in your natural charisma? What questions can you ask yourself to know exactly what to work on to become more charismatic? Why is active listening integral to being charismatic, and what can you do to improve your ability to listen? Why are people drawn more toward optimists than pessimists, and how can you become more optimistic? Why does it make you more charis

Authenticity is a powerful concept because many of us are scared of what other people might think of us if we were to be as weird as we know we are all the time, and consequently many of us hide the fun and interesting bits that make us who we are - so why do we care, why should we stop putting so much emphasis on what we think others want us to be, and what can you do when every social platform is signaling to you that the only parts worth living are the ones that get the most likes? What to Listen For What does it mean to be a disruptive innovator? How do you educate people without being preachy? What can you do to build up a tolerance for rejection so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities just because you walked away at “no”? If you have perfectionist tendencies, what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you from completing something or just moving on without it? What can you do if you feel like you are trying to fit yourself into a box that society wants for you rather than what YOU want

Company culture might conjure silly images of bag chairs and free lunch to some, but company culture is much more than hip amenities and it can break an organization if it’s dysfunctional - so what is a dysfunctional company culture, how do you risk losing your best talent unless you improve it, and is any company too big or too old to change its ways? What to Listen For What two areas of business do you need in order to successfully run a business? What are the 5 dysfunctions of management and what can you do to overcome them to build a world-class company culture people want to work with? Why is a willingness to be vulnerable and admit when you don’t know something important to developing a healthy company culture? Is conflict avoidance a good or bad thing in the workplace, and how should you approach disagreements and potential arguments? What does it mean to be trustworthy in a business environment and how can you identify someone who isn’t trustworthy before their failure becomes your failure? Wh

Meditation and mindfulness have experienced a resurgence in modern western society as people continue struggling to find peace and fulfillment amidst the chaos and materialism of the modern world - so what can meditation teach us about our place in all of this, and how can we incorporate meditation into our daily lives to make us better friends, coworkers, lovers, and humans? What to Listen For How long should you meditate? What does science say about meditation? What’s the minimum effective dose of meditation? What time of the day is best for meditating and when should you avoid meditating? Why is it so important to be clear with yourself about your intentions? What is the biggest misconception about meditation, especially when it comes to type A personalities? What is the difference between practicing meditation and practicing mindfulness, and why does it matter? What is meditation supposed to be about, and what do many people mistakenly think it’s about? How did meditation first start and how ha

Fear and rejection are natural parts of life, but if you want the most out of life, fear and rejection are two things you will face on a regular path to achieving your dreams - so what can you do to not only accept them but build a positive relationship with both, allowing you to channel their energy for your own forward momentum? What to Listen For How do you handle the fear of uncertainty in today’s job market when the economy is changing so rapidly? What can you do to overcome the fear of rejection we all experience? What exercise can you implement right now to start putting rejection into perspective and even look at rejection in a positive light? How can you choose to look at failure so it helps you rather than stopping you from going after the life you want? What is the difference between a perfectionist and a progressionist, and why can one hinder your success? How can you break away from humility to tell a story worth sharing? What are the 4 ways you can use to tell an engaging story people a

To many of us, the word values can sound like a buzzword thrown around in corporate-speak via emails and quarterly earnings calls - but individual values, once understood, can lead to a future of incredible potential, so what are the values we’re referring to, and what can you do to determine your values so you can live the life you’ve always wanted? What to Listen For Why is it important for each of us to determine our individual values, and how does living by those values help you to not make terrible decisions? How do you choose your values? What is the problem with goals, and why is the setting of goals not enough? What questions can you ask yourself to determine some of your basic values? How do you decide on company values, and why is it important for your company’s success to find employees who share those values? What are the company values of the Art of Charm? How did AJ Harbinger determine his values and how have they guided him to success? Why does more discipline in your life lead to mor

People skills are always important, but when it comes to money, fame, and power, it takes some skill and experience to learn who your friends are and know who is getting close to you because they want something from you, so how do you know who you can trust, and what can you do make sure you don’t get taken advantage of? What to Listen For What made Violet Benson start the Daddy Issues Instagram account? What can you do to move on after a relationship falls apart that you feel you’ve totally invested yourself in? How can you develop confidence and get rid of that nervous energy you feel when doing something for the first time? What does it even mean to “get to know” more people? How much can you really know about someone and how do you know when you can trust someone? What can you do to alleviate tension in conversations with dominant personalities? Life is not a friendly game. As humans, large groups of us around the world have managed to carve out a relatively friendly existence, but there will

Adversity has shaped humanity into who we are now - the most dominant and inventive species on this planet - so what can you do to stop looking at adversity as a roadblock and start looking at it as a necessity to becoming who you want to become? What to Listen For How can you know when you should trust your gut and when you should trust logic? What can you do to develop your own sense of intuition? Why is embarrassment integral to learning and mastery of a skill? What are the biggest social skills deficits in the workplace today and what should you focus on if you don’t want to lose out on that next job or promotion? What areas of your life should you focus on if hard work is not enough to get ahead in today’s world? How do you make your own privilege and create advantages for yourself in life that no one can take away from you? Why is it so important to think about the intent of a message vs the impact? What can you do to build advantages against biases people might have toward you? What is Laura

The tendency to self-sabotage is a part of who we are as humans, but many of us don’t even know when we’re doing it - so what can you do to identify the areas in your life when you tend to self-sabotage and what steps can you take to prevent self-sabotage in the future? What to Listen For What is self-sabotage and why do we all do it in some form or another? How do we self-diagnose our own self-sabotage and what can we do to stop it so it doesn’t damage our relationships or professional career? Are New Years Resolutions the best way to making changes in our lives, and what should we do if they’re not? What is the biggest misconception surrounding self-sabotage? How do we strengthen our willpower so that in times of potential self-sabotage we don’t fail? What is the L.I.F.E. acronym and how can you use it to identify the areas in your life where you are prone to self-sabotage? How does social media affect our tendency to self-sabotage and what can you do to prevent it? Once you identify the triggers t

Talking to people we don’t know can be uncomfortable and sometimes terrifying, so why is it so important that we become comfortable with it and overcome the fear, what does science say about the value of talking to strangers, and what can you do to become a master of meeting new people? What to Listen For Why is it easier for introverts to talk to strangers than friends and family members? Why is it scary for us to talk to people we don’t know and what can you do to overcome that fear? What is a digital device security blanket and how does it put a wall up around each of us? What does science say about the value of small talk with strangers and how can it prevent you from feeling isolated and disconnected from the world around you? Where is the best place to meet new people and what should you say when you introduce yourself? How do you use shared experiences to strike up a conversation with someone you know nothing about? When is it appropriate to compliment a stranger and how do you decide what to c

Finding your voice as a creative can be difficult and frustrating, so how do you stay true to yourself while pushing the boundaries of your work, what can you do to balance the quantity of output versus the quality, and how do you get buy-in on your creative vision when you’re just starting out? What to Listen For Who does Matt Komo draw inspiration from and how did he get started in film? What can you do to develop your confidence as a creative when it feels like you’re surrounded by people making better content than you? How do you balance quality vs quantity as a content creator? How do you find the balance between your creative side and the business side What can you do get buy-in on your creative vision and get the necessary support to follow through to completion? How much of telling a story falls on the medium itself and how do you change the way you tell a story from one medium to the next? What can you do to handle the creative differences that inevitably arise between you and a client? How

You are pitching anytime you attempt to convey an idea, and pitching effectively in today’s world of short attention spans is getting harder and harder, so what can you do to break every pitch down into 3 minutes, improve your own pitching skills, and make sure that next pitch doesn’t cost you a job, an idea, or a relationship? What to Listen For What can we do to practice our pitching skills? When are we NOT pitching our ideas or ourselves? How do you stand out in a sea of dozens or hundreds of other pitches? What are the two forms of information being conveyed in a pitch and what can you do to balance them so one doesn’t overpower the other and ruin your pitch? Why are the first 3 minutes of a pitch the most important and how do you make them count so you don’t waste your time? What does it mean to have an inform and lead approach to your pitch and why is it so important in today’s world of hyper-sensitive consumers? What are statements of value and how can using them change your career forever? W

Conflict resolution is not a skillset that comes naturally for most of us because our egos will always want to defend us by proving we’re correct at the expense of actually working to a resolution, so what can we do to understand the psychology of conflict resolution and improve our conflict resolution skills? What to Listen For What core psychological principles cause unnecessary conflict and what can you do to deal with them? What are the different phases of conflict resolution? What can you do to develop the skills required for effective conflict resolution and how can they save you from sabotaging your jobs, friends, or relationship? How did Judy Ringer get her start in conflict resolution? During conflict, why do we default to wanting to be right instead of being curious about the other side, and what can we do to flip that switch so we can deal with conflict more effectively? How can using open questions instead of statements or closed questions lead to an environment better suited for conflict

Leadership skills is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot yet can mean many different things depending on the person using it, so what does “leadership skills” really mean, what does the science say about the value of leadership skills, and what can you do. What to Listen For What traits do you need to bring to the table as a leader and what can you do to develop them? Why is a strong frame necessary for effective leadership? What does it mean to have a strong frame and what can you do to build one? What tools and techniques can you start using today to be a more effective leader? How do you build leadership skills? Are leadership skills applicable outside of the workplace? What is the CAKE equation and how can you use it to build confidence? What does science say about the value of leadership skills? What are the two leadership styles and which one do we tend to associate with leadership even though it’s not as effective as the other in the long run? How do you work on or start building your le