Intentional Living With Tanya Hale

Really learning to love ourselves deeply, and unconditionally, is the path to truly being able to love others deeply and unconditionally.  When we can let go of needing other people to love us in order for us to feel love, and whole or complete, then we are free to love and serve others with openness and honesty.  Loving ourselves fiercely is an empowering, energy-producing creation in our own lives that allows us to bring forth our greatest contribution in this world.  Let’s talk about it!

Self-love is so important in our lives.  When we extend this love to our past and future selves, rather than just loving our present self, we can develop a much deeper, more inclusive love that will impact our sense of self and our personal growth as well.  This is a discussion you won't want to miss!

Sometimes the concept of self-love can get a bad rap because people will associate it with being arrogant, or conceited, or vain.  But real self-love will lead you into a place of honor and respect for yourself and your worth, and will allow you to tap into the best parts of you.  Today we are going pretty in-depth about how to begin cultivating your own self-love.  You won't want to miss this one!

With all of the racial tension going on in our country right now, many of us are feeling a little helpless and disempowered. I've been spending so much time seeking to educate myself and become more aware of the racial issues within the United States.  This week I'm chatting with my friend Anita Miller.  She is a fellow life coach and a black woman who focuses on finding solutions.  I hope you enjoy what she has to share.

Curiosity is the beginning of everything great that will happen in your life!  Curiosity is the first step to growth and progression because it creates awareness, and awareness means we finally see what we need to see.  Today we'll talk about how curiosity will move you into the next best version of yourself.

As the Covid-19 Pandemic is slowing down, I keep hearing about the dreaded "new normal."  And yet, when we can learn to start looking for the opportunities in this new normal, rather than expecting disaster, we can create a very different experience for ourselves.  Because it all starts with a thought. . .

Our brain is always so busy thinking all kinds of thoughts, the VAST majority of those which are unconscious.  And a lot of these unconscious thoughts are not serving us, in fact, they can often be very detrimental for our progress and growth.  Learning how to identify and un-believe those thoughts is vital.  Let's talk about how.

It's amazing what a person can learn about themselves in the process of creating 99 podcasts!  Today I get a little personal, and sometimes a little emotional, as I share the lessons I've learned in the past 15 months of podcasting.  

Making the transition from parenting young children, over whom we have a lot of say, to parenting adult children, over whom we have no say, can be a really difficult challenge for many of us.  But the only way we can have the connected relationships we desire with our adult children is to learn to step back, let go, and love unconditionally.  

If you're a mom, you've most likely felt this at some point in your parenting career, and it doesn't just go away when our children become adults.  But let's take a closer look at what it is, and why it is, and how to create something different -- like a closer, connected relationship with our children.  

The Thought Model is a tool I use in my life and with my clients to help them understand their feelings and actions better.  Building upon last week's podcast, today we're discussing how understanding our thought model can help us to feel more empowered and step into emotional adulthood.

Do you ever wonder why certain situations make you so happy or angry or frustrated?  Do you wonder why you act the way that you do or why the results in your life are what they are?  The Thought Model is a tool I use with coaching my clients that helps them to understand the connection between circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.  This is the basis for my coaching.  If you want to know how to feel more empowered in your life, understanding and implementing The Thought Model is the first step!

Who are the people who come through challenges and adversity more successful and fulfilled than they were before they experienced it?  You got it.  Resilient people.  People who have the ability to bounce back and recover easily.  How do we become more resilient?  Join me today and let's talk about it.

What is the right path and how do we determine if we are on it?  Join me today as I share with you my recent personal revelations about what I've learned about my path and the paths of others.  I love growing up and learning these kinds of things about myself!  

Feeling a deep sense of fulfillment in our lives is something that we innately crave, and yet, so many of us still struggle to get to a place where we feel we've tapped into the level of fulfillment we desire.  In this episode we discuss what does and what doesn't help us to feel fulfilled with our lives and where we are.  

Have you ever noticed that sometimes your love will come with conditions?  And not just conditions on the front end, but conditions on the back end as well?  We often expect that when we show love to another person that they will behave in a certain way in return.  That, my friends, is controlling and manipulative.  Clean love is when we learn to love without any expectation at all.  And that, is an amazing place to get to!

It is so easy to not only blame other people for things that go wrong in our lives, but just as easy to expect people to be responsible for our happiness and for fulfilling our needs.  Well, it's time to step up, my friends, and start taking responsibility for the emotions, including happiness, that we feel, and also for our own needs.  Wanting, or expecting, someone else to take care of these things for us leaves us completely powerless, and who wants that?

Divorce is traumatic, and we can carry that trauma with us for many years.  And it's not just the trauma of the separation, it's also the trauma of many years of developing unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the dysfunction.  This is a great discussion to help you become more aware of the trauma and learn how to work through it.

What do mid-agers and teenagers have in common?  A lot of angst!  And for a lot of reasons you may not have considered.  Join me today as we discuss how our mid-life funk correlates so strongly with the life of a teenager.  

Today I get to interview my good friend and fellow life coach, Jane Copier (janecopiercoaching.com).  Jane is an amazing coach who focuses on helping couples save their marriages.  If you've been married you know that it definitely has it's challenges, but you may not feel that divorce is the option for you.  That being said, you also don't know how to fix it and be in a healthier and happier marriage.  Jane can help!