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Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.你是否为你曾经做过的事，或失败的事而对自己耿耿于怀?每个人都会在某种程度上有过这种经历。然而，如果你想要一种成功而积极的生活，学会释怀过去，不要为已经发生且无法改变的过去而责备自己，这一点是非常必要的。The successful person takes this approach: Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.大凡成功的人都会采取这种作法：从过去的错误中吸取经验教训，并为将来的行为作适当的调整。为过去的行为而责备自己的这种方式并不能解决任何问题，只能挫败你的自尊心。你因此而制造了一个恶性循环，消积的经历和感受并再次被强化，同时导致了更多的恶性结果和消积的情感。If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes. Visualizing and think