Recovery Support

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. The Mysteries of Intimacy Do you find it difficult to share the deepest parts of yourself with someone?  Have you been accused of being distant or difficult to reach?  The whole issue of intimacy is something most sex addicts struggle with at their core.  Kevin Bergen discusses this concept as he shares from Gordon MacDonald's book, WHEN MEN THINK PRIVATE THOUGHTS. When Men Think Private Thoughts by Gordon MacDonald Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Anxiety Does anxiety play a role in your addiction?  Some people act out to medicate their anxiety.  Hear Kevin talk about different varieties of anxiety and see if it fits for you or someone you know. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Familial Origins What have you taken from your childhood into adulthood?  Kevin Bergen discusses how your family of origin may still be impacting you as he reads from Bradshaw on the Family, by John Bradshaw. Bradshaw: On the Family by John Bradshaw Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. The Trap of Intensity Some find last year's most thrilling movie with the most amazing special effects to be quite uninteresting now.  Do you find yourself driven for ever more exciting books, video games, friends, or experiences?  You just may be in The Intensity Trap, which Kevin talks about this week in Recovery Support. Wanting More: Challenge of Enjoyment in the Age of Addiction by Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. At Inventory Time Step 4 is the big one, or so says most people.  This week, Kevin talks about preparing and writing your Step 4 inventory. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. At Inventory Time (Part 1) "Inventories" are a big part of recovery, at least in the beginning.  They can be revisited at any time during the 12 steps.  This week, Kevin talks about Step 1 inventories. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Difficult Feelings Many addicts want to push away or hide their feelings, in fact, a majority of addicts act out in order NOT to feel their feelings.  Kevin talks about these ideas and more in this episode of RECOVERY SUPPORT, with Kevin Bergen. Today's readings come from Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature.  Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Sponsorship Have you ever had a personal trainer?  A life coach?  A mentor?  In the 12 Steps, you can have something even better--a sponsor.  This episode of Recovery Support covers some of the benefits of getting a sponsor. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Consistency Can you be consistent in your recovery behaviors even when stuff happens?  Working a program includes tasks and behaviors that you engage in consistently to stay sober. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature.  Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Religious Guilt & Shame What about those addicts to DO believe in God and who struggle with concepts like sin and forgiveness?  The same ideas of weakness and grace apply to anyone in recovery and can be quite instructive. Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down, by Wendy Ulrich, PhD Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Approaching Change - Part 2 Having discussed two types of change last week, Kevin Bergen follows up this week with the second part of his discussion of "2nd-order change" from Dr. Patrick Carnes' book, In the Shadows of the Net. In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick Carnes, PhD Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Approaching Change - PART 1 Recovery is all about change.  This week, Kevin Bergen shares information compiled in Dr. Patrick Carnes' book, In The Shadows of the Net about different steps to change. In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick Carnes, PhD Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature. Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Personalization How do you deal with lust hits?  You know, when you're triggered by something (or someone)?  Kevin talks about lust in this episode, and then he offers a tool that can help you deal with those hits. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature.  Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Orange Elephants This week, Kevin talks about the benefits of "focusing on the positive."  He uses one of his favorite tools, Green Monkeys & Orange Elephants, to illustrate that you can't not think of something.  Join him for an enlightening 20 minutes in this week's episode. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature.  Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Interview with “Gary” This week, Kevin interviews “Gary,” (not his real name) who is a self-identified sex addict. Gary volunteered his time and story in hopes it might help another person struggling with their own compulsive sexual behavior. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature Used with permission of SA Literature RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed or pre-approved by any 12-step fellowship Theme music: “My Best Routines” by Arthur Yoria on the “Of the Lovely” album available at www.magnatune.com

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Resentment & Forgiveness Dr. Fred Luskin, FORGIVE FOR GOOD RECOVERY SUPPORT is not endorsed by nor affiliated with S.A. or any 12-step fellowship, nor does RECOVERY SUPPORT nor Kevin Bergen promote any particular 12-step fellowship.  The Podcast suggests resources that have been helpful to Mr. Bergen's clients.

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Why Would Someone Surrender? Picking up where he left off in last week's episode about Step One,  Kevin Bergen continues and talks about "Surrender." S.A. Literature STEP INTO ACTION: ONE TWO THREE I'd love to hear your thoughts on Recovery Support and its role in your life. Email me at kbrecoverysupport@gmail.com Also, if you'd like to donate to defray expenses of this Podcast, you can do so at the PayPal link at the bottom left of this page.

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Doing Step 1 Work Trying to figure out if you're an addict?  Wanting to start working the steps?  This show addresses issues that come up in Step One on Recovery Support With Kevin Bergen, MA, MFT. Materials used for this episode are all from Sexaholics Anonymous (The White Book) I'd love to hear your thoughts on Recovery Support and its role in your life. Email me at kbrecoverysupport@gmail.com Also, if you'd like to donate to defray expenses of this Podcast, you can do so at the PayPal link at the bottom left of this page.

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Power of Gratitude Gratitude is a big part of positive recovery.  How being thankful leads to happiness is the focus of this episode of Recovery Support With Kevin Bergen, MA, MFT. This week’s references and readings included Robert Emmons, PhD Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier Dennis Prager Happiness is a Serious Problem I'd love to hear your thoughts on Recovery Support and its role in your life. Email me at kbrecoverysupport@gmail.com Also, if you'd like to donate to defray expenses of this Podcast, you can do so at the PayPal link at the bottom left of this page.

Weekly podcast intended to support you in your recovery from sexual compulsivity, NOT intended to take the place of your 12-step program or your individual therapy. Relapse Prevention Have you ever returned to a behavior after successfully being free of it for a period?  This is relapse, and its causes and preventive strategies are covered in this episode of Recovery Support With Kevin Bergen, MA, MFT. This week’s references and readings included Patrick Carnes, PhD,  Don't Call it Love For those wishing to contribute to the expenses of Recovery Support in the spirit of the 7th Tradition, you can anonymously do so by using the Paypal link to the left of this screen. Readings from SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS (The White Book) Copyright © 1989-2008 SA Literature Used with permission of SA Literature Theme music: "My Best Routines" by Arthur Yoria on the "Of the Lovely" album available at www.magnatune.com