Sexology

Welcome to episode 242 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Diane Gleim to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss whether it's bad to watch porn, the emergence of ethical porn, how many people fantasize about sex with multiple people, and the relationship between porn and masturbation.    Diane Gleim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor practicing in northern California. Her clients include anyone with a sexual concern: individuals and couples ages 18-80 and beyond, and the LGBTQ+, kinky, and poly populations. She treats the many diverse issues related to sexual identity, sexual expression, sexual behavior, and sexual relationships.     In addition to her private practice, Diane’s work also includes training mental health professionals on a variety of topics related to sex and therapy and writing the blog Underneath the Sheets on Psychology Today’s website. She has been voted Sonoma County’s Best Sex Therapist for 4 ye

Welcome to episode 241 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between pleasure and pornography, how our erotic template fits into porn and analyzing the negative connotations that usually come with porn.    Alan McKee is a Professor in Digital and Social Media in the Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences at UTS. He is an expert on entertainment and healthy sexual development. He has published on healthy sexual development, and entertainment education for healthy sexuality in journals including the New Media and Society, Archives of Sexual Behavior, the International Journal of Sexual Health, the Journal of Sex Research and Sex Education.    Katerina Litsou is a senior research assistant and a doctoral researcher at the University of Southampton. She has a bachelor of psychology and a master of sexology. Her current research focuses on female sexuality and the use of pornography.    In this episode, you will hear:    

Welcome to episode 240 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Majo Molfino to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Majo decided to write Break the Good Girl Myth, the most challenging myths for sex and sexuality and learning to understand your past and move forward.    Majo Molfino guides women toward more power and meaning through her unique blend of storytelling, design, psychology, and mindfulness. Her work can be seen through her podcast (which features women such as Sophia Amoruso and Byron Katie and has over one million downloads), her book (which helps women shed the good girl myths the patriarchy has imposed upon them), and her leadership program IGNITE.     She also has a Master’s in learning, design, and technology from Stanford University and a bachelor’s degree in psychology with a minor in cultural studies from McGill University.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Majo decided to write Break the Good Girl Myth   How these myths get in the way

Welcome to episode 239 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Erica Lemke-Pembroke to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Erica’s journey to getting to her place of confidence, the importance of self-love and self-respect and how you can build your confidence to feel sexier.    Erica Lemke-Pembroke, MA, is a certified life coach, licensed, specialty-certified New Life Story ® wellness coach and sexual confidence coach. Erica has a master's degree in community counseling with a concentration in marriage and family therapy. She also holds a bachelor's degree in kinesiology and a certificate in gerontology. Her desire to work with clients from a holistic perspective has been a driving force throughout her life. Guiding others to connect with themselves: body, mind and soul came from a lifetime of creating this within herself.      Erica became certified as a life coach through Coach Training Alliance, and deepened her studies with a license, specialty-certification as a Me

Welcome to episode 238 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Guy Blaise to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the cultural differences between dating in the US and France, looking at the issue of unsolicited dick picks and why paying more attention to your partner will get you better sex.      Guy Blaise is an author and Frenchman currently living in America. He lived in Eastern France and Paris, where he witnessed the dating experiences of the strong women in his family and listened closely to the advice his grandmother routinely gave them about love.     After two decades of living in America and struck by the differences between two cultures’ approaches to romance and sex, Guy started writing books offering his insights and started The French Perspective blog.     In this episode, you will hear:     The biggest differences between dating in the USA and France   Analyzing the cultural differences between dating in the USA and France   How we are living in a “P

Welcome to episode 237 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Marissa Tunis to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss ways in which we can get closure from a breakup, analyzing what gaslighting is and how we can stop the cycle of repeating the same mistakes when it comes to relationships.    Dr. Marissa Tunis is a licensed psychologist, dating coach, and founder of Datefully, dating coaching based in psychology.  She is based in Los Angeles and sees clients across the country who are struggling with heartbreaks, dating anxiety and relationship issues.      She hosts a weekly live-streamed digital talk show on the Meet Me app, Live with Dr. Marissa, which addresses the topics of love, dating and mental health.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Marissa became interested in this line of work   Ways in which we can get closure from a breakup  How we can learn to heal after a very bitter breakup   How long should we wait after a breakup to start dating

Welcome to episode 236 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss her new book, Shameless Parenting, look at the issue of sexual shame, and give recommendations on how to talk to your kids about sex.      Dr. Tina is a vibrant thought leader around issues of sexuality, intimacy, and spirituality. Her life’s work is centered around rooting out the causes of sexual shame and providing tools that disarm and demystify all the negative messages that we receive in American culture and so often in religious circles. She regularly speaks at events, conferences, intimacy retreats, churches, and universities around the country.     Dr. Tina is a sex therapist, former professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Seattle Pacific University, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife, and author. She is currently doing work on her next book, which is intended to help parents raise

Welcome to episode 235 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I talk about the issues of delayed ejaculation.     In this episode, you will hear:     The challenges overall of erectile functioning   Looking at the time it takes for men on average to ejaculate   Contributing causes to delayed ejaculation   How side effects from medication can affect this issue   The role guilt and shame can play around delayed ejaculation  How we can internalize negative experiences   How masturbation can affect delayed ejaculation  Looking at the frequency of masturbation   Being honest and authentic with your partner  Opening up about your sexual desires and fantasies to your partner   Overcoming any issues of shame and embarrassment   Incorporating sex toys into your sex life   How you can maintain erections during penetrative sex         Sexology Podcast  https://sexologypodcast.com     Tips for Lifelong Erectile Health  https://oasis2care.com/hard-penis-checklist

Welcome to episode 234 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Kristopher Lovestone to the podcast. In this episode, Kristopher talks to me about his book, Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men, the role porn plays in distorting our view on penis size and expectations and why women are more interested in men being good lovers than just having a big penis.     The “Einstein of relationships”, Kristopher Lovestone is an ingenious certified sex educator who is breaking new ground in sex education for men and couples.  After surviving six divorces during his childhood he went on to rewrite the rules of the relationship game so that people can actually win.     His ingenious & practical approach transforms people’s ability to get what they really want in their long-term relationship.  Through state-of-the-art communication tools, cutting-edge sex & intimacy education and innovative relational strategies, he empowers people to exit relationship exhaustion & cult

Welcome to episode 233 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Kaminetsky speaks to me about the impact of testosterone on sexual health, the challenges some people face with their bodies not producing enough testosterone and analyzing men’s orgasms.     Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, M.D. is a Clinical Assistant Professor at NYU Medical Center and a Board Certified Urologist at University Urology, one of the largest urology practice in the New York City area. He pioneered the minimally invasive Rezum BPH treatment, is highly skilled in treating all urologic disorders and excels in vasectomies, minimally invasive prostate surgeries and penile implants.     His academic interests in male and female sexual dysfunction have been published in medical journals which led to a nationwide recognition and development of various treatment schemes for patients with sexual, erectile dysfunction and androgen deficiency.    In this episode, you will

Welcome to episode 232 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Morgan Anderson to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Morgan talks to me about attachment styles and how they impact our sex lives, the benefits of emotionally safe sex and how experiences from our childhood can affect our attachment style.     Are you ready to take the mystery out of having great relationships and to gain the knowledge you need to step confidently into the next level of your life? Dr. Morgan Anderson, gives you real talk on all things dating, relationships, and sex. Dr. Morgan is a relationship coach, psychologist and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She brings humor, truth and knowledge to the complex world of dating and relationships.      Dr. Morgan's Podcast "Let's Get Vulnerable" will provide you with tangible strategies that you can implement immediately to improve your life and attract the exact relationship you desire. Episodes will feature expert advice from your host

Welcome to episode 231 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Megan Stubbs to the podcast. In this episode, Megan talks to me about sex toys, the evolution of them over the years, how they can improve your sex life, and recommendations for the best ones to check out.     Holding degrees in Human Sexuality and Biology, Dr. Megan Stubbs is an energetic multi-media savvy Sexologist. She has been building a brand that has sexual wellness, education, and pleasure at the forefront. With her respective degrees, she is able to combine two of her favorite things, science and sex, into a cohesive platform to impact her audience. She offers presentations on a wide variety of topics ranging from positive body image to sexual assault prevention. She is mindful of inclusion and brings a sensitivity to ethnic diversity rooted in her own complex heritage.      Her programming is designed to entertain and educate with actionable steps and information the participants can use as soon as they leave

Welcome to episode 230 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode, Martha speaks to us about her new book, Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients), looking at consensual non-monogamy, examining common myths around polyamory, and the relationship and sexual dynamics of polyamory.     Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately applicable learning materials for therapists. She has a book coming out in August 2020 about working effectively with clinical challenges related to polyamory.    In this episode, you will

Welcome to episode 229 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Alicia & Erwan Davon to the podcast. In this episode Alicia & Erwan speak to me about how can we cultivate sexual spark in our long-term relationships, flirt in a long-term relationship and discovering your sexual energy.     For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams.     Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others.      Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, d

Welcome to episode 228 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Leonor de Oliveira, MSc to the podcast. In this episode, Leonor de Oliveira speaks to me about the issue of sexual boredom, looking at hypersexuality and how infidelity can affect sexual boredom.     Leonor de Oliveira, MSc in Psychology, is a Clinical Psychologist credited by the Portuguese Board of Psychologists and Sexual Therapist by the Portuguese Society of Clinical Sexology. Currently integrates Porto University’s Centre for Psychology as a researcher, and the Doctoral Program in Human Sexuality as a student. Her main research topic is sexual boredom and its relationships with individual, relationship, and systemic aspects. She runs the social media account on Instagram @prontoadespir, where she promotes evidence based sexual education and advocates for sexual rights. Outside of the sexuality field she has mainly worked in the context of crisis intervention and short-term therapy in EAP settings.    * The litera

Welcome to episode 227 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome back Dr. Ian Kerner to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Kerner talks to me about his new book; So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives, overcoming psychological sexual rigidity, expanding into verbal foreplay and ways you can bring new sexual ideas to your partner.    Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health.     He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychot

Welcome to episode 226 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Nan Wise to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Nan talks to me about her book, Why Good Sex Matters, how you can learn to access your pleasure and analyzing the difference between sexual stimulation and satisfaction.     Dr. Nan Wise is a certified sex therapist, certified relationship specialist, neuroscience researcher, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Driven by the desire to understand how the brain operates to create moods and behaviors, she returned to academia and completed her Ph.D. in 2014. Her dissertation work, Genital stimulation, imagery, and orgasm in women: an fMRI analysis, resulted in three published studies. Her research has addressed gaps in the scientific literature regarding the neural basis of human sexuality, and as a result, garnered international attention.    Dr. Nan's clinical approach addr

Welcome to episode 225 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Chris Germer, PhD to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Germer talks to me about self-compassion, the power of kindness and how you can learn to let go of your expectations.    Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School.  He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 150,000 people worldwide.  They co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program.     Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion.  He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion; he co-edited two influential volumes on therapy, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy; and he maintains a small private practice in Arlington, Massachuset

Welcome to episode 224 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Jordan Tishler to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Tishler tells us how he became interested in working with cannabis for sex, the impact it has on sexual experiences and the best ways you can pursue using medical cannabis.    Dr. Jordan Tishler is a Cannabis Specialist.  Through his training in Internal Medicine and years of practice as an Emergency Physician, Dr. Tishler brings his knowledge, reason, and caring to patients here at inhaleMD, and through his advocacy work at the local and national levels.     Dr. Tishler graduated from both Harvard College and Harvard Medical School, trained at the Brigham and Women’s Hospital, and is faculty at both the Brigham and Women’s Hospital and Harvard Medical School.  He has spent many years working with the underserved, particularly providing care for Veterans.  Having treated countless patients harmed by alcohol and drugs, his observation that he had never seen a canna

Welcome to episode 223 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome A.B. Kelleher to the podcast. In this episode, A.B. Kelleher speaks to me about his book Little Green Pills, how he became interested to write the book, learning to cultivate your imagination for better sex and analyzing why shame stops people from cultivating their sexual fantasies.    A.B. Kelleher is the author of Little Green Pills - It all started in a clinical trial to help women with low libido. But when a black-market version of synthetic testosterone starts spreading like wildfire, the effects don't stop with amped-up love lives.     As a sexual revolution that makes the 1960s look like Victorian England sweeps the US, and social roles radically shift, the government creates the Reproductive Health Administration (RHA) to suppress trafficking in Little Green Pills. As the newest iteration of the "War on Drugs" fails miserably, life for RHA Director Eric Veritan is about to get dangerously interesti