Sexology

Welcome to episode 164 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD to the show. In this episode Dr. Jen speaks with me about reconnecting with your sexual self, why people feel discomfort around sex and looking at the main motivators for sex.     Sociologist and intimacy coach, Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is the author of the new book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Dr. Jenn is a national speaker on sexual consent, couples intimacy, women’s empowerment, gender communication, erotic play, and mindful sex.     She has presented two TEDx Talks, is the co-host of the podcast Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc, and has over 1.6 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Why sex matters?  What are some of the messages that contribute to people feeling discomfort with sexuality?  The importance of critical thinking   How can we expand our comfort zone around sex?  Ways

Welcome to episode 163 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Molly Winterrowd to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Winterrowd speaks with me about how attitudes and beliefs impact the quality of our sex lives, creating more space in your life for sex and how to know if we need a sexual attitude adjustment.   Dr. Molly Winterrowd is an advocate in providing affirmative care, is dedicated to creating a safe space where individuals and partners experiencing challenges with their sexuality or gender are able to explore these aspects openly and honestly with care and compassion. Dr. Winterrowd believes that individuals are courageously vulnerable in therapy, and it is a privilege to be trusted to explore others’ deepest needs. In our work together, she helps to navigate how to fulfill these needs most functionally within clients’ lives. Dr. Winterrowd strives to create a safe space where open communication and honesty are welcomed and embraces a holistic approach that combines various

Welcome to episode 162 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir speaks with me about Sexsomnia, the behavioral patterns around this issue and what treatment can look like.     Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. In 2020, he will join a panel consisting of sleep medicine experts at the SLEEP 2020 conference hosted by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Research Society in Philadelphia, PA. He earned his medical degree f

Welcome to episode 161 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Carol Queen, PhD to the podcast. In this episode Carol speaks with me about overcoming sexual shyness, things we can do to expand our horizons and tools we can add to our sexual toolbox.     Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. She has written a sex tutorial, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, as well as erotica, such as the novel The Leather Daddy and the Femme.     Queen has produced adult movies, events, workshops and lectures. Queen was featured as an instructor and star in both instalments of the Bend Over Boyfriend series about female-to-male anal sex, or pegging. She has also served as editor for compilations and anthologies.   In This Episode You Will Hear:     The ways in which people exper

Welcome to episode 160 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Ela Darling to the podcast. In this episode Ela speaks with me about how she became involved in virtual reality porn, it’s social implications and how she sees it expanding in the future.     Ela Darling is a former librarian who has since become the leading voice in the intersection of Virtual Reality and the Adult Industry. As the world's first VR camgirl, Darling is a pioneer in the field of Virtual Reality pornography, having worked with a variety of elite adult companies, on both sides of the camera.     After a decade as an adult film performer, she is now the Director of Marketing for ViRo Club, a private, inclusive, judgement-free adult VR play space.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Ela went from being a librarian to working in the adult movie industry   What is Virtual Reality porn?  How did Ela transition to webcamming?   The impact bringing the camera into the experience has for VR p

Welcome to episode 159 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Barbara Carrellas to the podcast. In this episode Barbara speaks to me about Tantra, how you can enjoy it with a partner and we also take a look at Energygasms and Sex Magic.     Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, a hot and healing approach to sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving.     She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra workshops, and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. She is a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is Tant

Welcome to episode 158 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special anniversary episode celebrating three years of Sexology Podcast. In this episode we hear from Dr. Cat Meyer, Tara Galeano, Jessica Graham, Dr. Ari Tuckman, Wendy Maltz LCSW, Rachel Grant and Jonathan Miller on their best sex tips. Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. She hosts an online women's sexuality + embodiment program called LOVE.body   Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer.  Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. 

  Welcome to episode 157 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Xanet Pailet to the podcast. In this episode Xanet speaks to me about she overcame a sexless marriage, looking at the barriers of sexual shame and taking the power back over arousal.   Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades.  After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.       Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure.  Xanet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.      Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach

  Welcome to episode 156 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. JoAnna Nguyen to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Nguyen speaks to me about labia surgery, why people have the surgery, how common it is and looking at the process of the surgery.     Dr. JoAnna Nguyen is a board-certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon in Los Angeles, California, with expertise in all fields of plastic surgery, including aesthetic, reconstructive, pediatric, hand, and burn surgery.  She has a particular interest in aesthetic surgery of the eyes and face, breast surgery and labiaplasty. Dr. Nguyen is also passionate about skincare and has extensive experience with non-surgical treatments such as lasers, peels, and topical treatments.      Dr. Nguyen was born and raised in beautiful Southern California. Spoiled by the perennial sunny weather in Huntington Beach, her curiosity for the seasons led her to the the East Coast, where she attended Boston University. There she graduated Summa Cum Laude wi

Welcome to episode 155 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Fiona O'Farrell to the podcast. In this episode Fiona speaks with me about paper dolls, how they can be used as a vehicle for self-pleasure and understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive.     Fiona O'Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sex Educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. In her practice, she works with clients on issues relating to sexual identity, dismantling sex negative messages, and enhancing pleasure and intimacy.     She is the coordinator of the Sexuality Therapy and Sex Education Certificate Programs at Antioch University in Seattle and teaches classes in human sexuality, sex therapy, and relationship therapy. Fiona is dedicated to expanding sex ed resources to be inclusive of body diversity and challenge binary thinking.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How paper dolls allows for diversity   Having many options available as an add-on  Using pap

Welcome to episode 154 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Amy C. Moors, Ph.D to the podcast. In this episode, Amy speaks with me about consensual non-monogamy, looking at the quality of attachment, and recommendations for how to deal with minority stress.     Amy C. Moors, Ph.D., is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Chapman University and a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University. She also serves as the co-chair of the American Psychological Association’s Division 44 Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force. Prior to joining Chapman, she was the Director of the Social Science Research and Evaluation Program in the College of Engineering at Purdue University. She is an interdisciplinary researcher with backgrounds in psychology and women’s studies (Ph.D., University of Michigan), higher education (postdoctoral fellow, National Center for Institutional Diversity) and social science evaluation (researcher, University of Michigan's ADVANCE Program).     Dr. Mo

Welcome to episode 153 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about the art and science of seduction, differentiating between friendliness and flirting, and how anyone can develop seduction skills.    Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     Aly designs workshops and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Alison began working in sex education   Differentiating between friendliness and flirting   Mistakes people often make when flirting   Learning to seduce yourself   Looking at sleaze free seduc

Welcome to episode 152 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about casual sex, how to best use dating sites like Tinder and emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex.     Dr. Chavez is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, California where she provides individual and couples therapy, sex and relationship coaching, and workshops on sexual health and wellness.     Her work focuses on adult sex education, integrating sexuality and spirituality, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. She frequently appears on national news, radio, and media as a sexual health expert.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Limiting ideas that get in the way of women having casual sex  The importance of exploration and having fun  Learning to verbalize your wants and needs   How having c

  Welcome to episode 151 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Shane Birkel to the podcast. In this episode he speaks with me about relationship challenges that affect sexual function, how excitement lessens as bonds deepen and ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation.     Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice near Boston. He works primarily with couples and is a certified Relational Life Therapist with Terry Real as his mentor.     Shane hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch that is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He is the creator of the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership site supporting therapists in their work with couples.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Relational challenges that affect sexual function   How many people don’t realize the negative habits they have that will impact sex in a relationship   Looking at overdependence on our partners for how we

Welcome to episode 150 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am joined by Dr. Robert Glover. In this episode we discuss the Nice Guy Syndrome, the issues nice guys have around sex, and the ways they can change things inside and outside the bedroom.     Dr. Robert Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.     As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships.    Dr

Welcome to episode 149 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Tammy Nelson to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about sexual boredom, contributing factors as to why people cheat, and the concept of new monogamy.     Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a  Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheated,  and the upcoming Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy due out in March.     She is the Director and Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in Washington DC., a training Institute, and Think Tank focused on obtaining and creating sustainable relationships. She is also an expert consultant for Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Time Magazine, and is the host of a popular podcast, The Trouble wit

Welcome to episode 148 of the Sexology Podcast! Today’s episode is a solo episode during which I will respond to listeners’ pre-recorded questions. Here are the questions that I will answer in this episode: Why do so many women have spanking fantasies? How common are BDSM fantasies? How hard should a “normal” erection be? How do I know if I am “hard enough”? What do I do if I can’t get “hard enough”? How can you get your partner to initiate sex more often? How do you ask your partner to have sex without sounding desperate? If you’ve got questions, I have answers! Record your questions here: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/ or email it to drmoali@sexologypodcast.com   Resources mentioned in the episode: Books: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428   Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life  https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958   Articles:  http://

Welcome to episode 147 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about the misconceptions people have around having good relationships, not over compromising in a relationship and finding your voice to communicate what you really want to your partner.     CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples.     They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others.     They also run tr

Welcome to episode 146 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about sex and disability, the effect a chronic illness or physical disability will have on a person's sex life, and sex tips for individuals and couples.     Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr. (pronouns: he, him, his) is currently a third-year doctoral student in counseling education and supervision at the University of North Texas. Jose’s research is focused on clinical interventions for interabled couples in couples’ and sex therapy. Specifically, Jose focuses on the adjustment process after one partner acquires a disability. Jose provides individual, couples, play, and family therapy with a special focus in working with disabled people in three languages (English, Spanish, and American Sign Language) at a private practice.     Jose has spent time working with interabled couples at a private rehabilitation setting for people with brain injuries (TBI

Welcome to episode 145 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about using BDSM as a form of self-care and finding your healthier self, and provides recommendations on where to get started.     Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW, is a sexuality/intimacy therapist/educator specializing in working with individuals who identify as kinky and/or consensually non-monogamous (poly, swingers, etc.); those who identify as gender non-conforming and/or have questions about sexuality; as well as those who need assistance with issues such as depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, communication/anger/intimacy issues and much more. In addition to standard individual, family and relationship counseling, Liz is currently expanding her practice to include supervising and training new therapists with her sex positive inclusive therapeutic approach.     For the last few years she has been providing community/professional educatio