Sexology

EP144 - Getting Off Without Checking Out with Jessica Graham   Welcome to episode 144 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jessica Graham to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about incorporating fantasy in a healthy way, how sexuality is connected to spirituality, and using mindfulness to increase your desire   Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker.   As a gift to Sexology listeners, Jessica is offering one month free on Simple Habit!   Trial Code: WILDAWAKENING First, sign-up for Simple Habit at http://www.simplehabit.com Usin

Welcome to episode 143 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dalychia Saah to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about allowing yourself to have more pleasure, why we struggle to connect with our bodies and finding your erotic voice.    Dalychia Saah (she/her) is a sexuality educator, professor, writer, and speaker. Through her words and work, Dalychia facilitates space for people to connect deeper with their desires for their body, relationships, life, and our world. She is passionate about people unlearning oppressive norms that are externalized, inter-personalized, and internalized that keep us from moving towards a more liberated way of being. Dalychia believes that systematic forms of oppression can be overthrown by a reclamation of intra- and interpersonal power.     Dalychia is the co-founder of Afrosexology, a pleasure based sex education platform that creates educational content and workshops to center the pleasure, empowerment, and liberation of Black people.  A

Welcome to episode 142 of the Sexology Podcast! Today's episode is a solo episode where I discuss fantasizing about others while you're in a relationship, understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship, the way our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue, and how this is a very common issue for lots of couples.    In this episode, you will hear:     Is it normal to fantasize about someone else while in a relationship?  The importance of communication and dialogue when defining the parameters of your relationship   The stigma attached to non-monogamous relationships   How our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue   Recognizing obsessional thoughts and what to do with them   Being true to your own values   Learning to not judge yourself for having certain thoughts   Removing yourself from situations where you might regret a decision later, e.g. drinking at a social event   Understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship   The

Welcome to episode 141 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Tara Galeano, L.P.C., CST to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about the challenge's women face in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment, incorporating a holistic approach with feminine energy and the first steps women can take to regain their sexuality.    Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer. For the past five years, she has taught this class at Boulder Community Health.     Currently, she is creating an online course based on this class to make the content more accessible to women everywhere. Tara is also inspired by her studies of Ayurveda, Sanskrit, and being a grandmother. She is currently writing a book based on the Rediscovering My Body class, so she may share widely with all those that are s

Welcome to episode 140 (a) of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Susan Bratton to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sex toys, why couples are using them, how they can add sex appeal and changing the sexual dynamic of a relationship with a sex toy.     Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships.     Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.     Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”      Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube ch

Welcome to episode 140 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about working with non-traditional couples, the sexual challenges they face and understanding what it means to be kink aware.     Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years' experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking. Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients.    In this episode, you will hear:     The non-traditional relationship Stefani sees in her pra

Welcome to episode 139 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about his new book (adultADHDbook), navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through, creating fairness and managing expectations and how an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex.    Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the survey Dri Ari conducted for his new book   Do men with ADHD experience more desire than women?  Navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through   The role medication plays in this issue   Distractions during sex, looking at keeping focused and in the zone  

Welcome to episode 138 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I welcome Michael Vigorito to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about out of control sexual behaviour, examining the driving force behind it and understanding the best practices to deal with this issue.    Mr. Vigorito is a sex therapist, author and consultant.  As a psychotherapist, he provides individual, couples and group psychotherapy for a range of sexual and behavioral health concerns. He developed a sexual health assessment and treatment protocol with Douglas Braun-Harvey, which was published in Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Rethinking Sex Addiction (2016) (SSTAR 2018 Health Professional Book Award Winner).      As a sexual health consultant for Behavioral Health Systems Baltimore and University of Maryland - Prevention Research Center, Mr. Vigorito designed and implemented capacity-building initiatives to integrate sexual health into mental health and substance use disorder treatment. These programs offered trainings

Welcome to episode 137 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about what men can do to last longer in bed, the underlying issues of premature ejaculation and techniques that men can learn to help with this issue.     Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.     She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world    In this episode, you will hear:     What can men do to last longer in bed?  Simple and effective techniques men can use   Understanding how your style of masturbation wi

Welcome to episode 136 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where I discuss how you can change your sexual schema.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you change your schema of sex?   A personal story from Nazanin to help further unpack this issue   How a lack of sex education impacted Nazanin’s life   The conflicting messages on sex from society and religion   How these messages become instilled as part of your development   The feelings of guilt from wanting to experience sex   The importance of values within acceptance commitment therapy   Analyzing your own biases around sex   Challenging the myth that you need to be married to have good sex  Taking a look at alternative rebellion   Writing down your own sexual thoughts and stories to help further express your sexual feelings        Resources  https://sexologypodcast.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression:

Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.     Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.     She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do yo

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones.  Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.   For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.    In this episode, you will hear:   The benefits of self-pleasure   Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure   What is p

Welcome to episode 133 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile dysfunction, the steps leading to a penile prosthesis and how the penile prosthesis works.    Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD, is a specialist in complex surgical reconstruction of the male urinary tract, male urinary incontinence, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, urethral stricture disease, and Peyronie’s Disease. He joins the USC Institute of Urology after completing his urology residency at USC and further fellowship training in male genitourinary reconstructive and prosthetic surgery under Dr. Stuart Boyd, a world-renown reconstructive cancer surgeon and authority on reconstruction of the lower urinary tract and urologic prosthestics.      Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Loh-Doyle completed his undergraduate and medical school education in the prestigious Baccalaureate/MD program at the Ke

Welcome to episode 132 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m happy to welcome Dr. Natalie Rosen to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD), the impact of FSIAD on partners and understanding self-expansion and how it can help.   Dr. Natalie Rosen is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research interests focus on understanding how individuals, and especially couples, cope with sexual problems or changes to their sexual relationship, including low sexual desire. She is an Associate Editor of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and has published over 70 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters on sexual relationships. Dr. Rosen’s research is currently funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, the Nova Scotia Health Research Foundation, the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada, and the Canadian Foundation of Innovation. Dr. Rosen als

Welcome to episode 131 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D and Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about defining sexual orientation, addressing the challenges around minority distress and the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians.  Jes Matsick, Ph.D.   Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D. is an Assistant Professor of Psychology and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at The Pennsylvania State University. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology and Women’s Studies at the University of Michigan. In her research, she studies sexuality, gender, and prejudice, and much of her work is centered on the perspectives and experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) individuals. Dr. Matsick is the director of the Underrepresented Perspectives Lab at Penn State, where she trains undergraduate and graduate students to conduct psychological research with an emphasis on LGBTQ+ issues. Her lab uses social psychol

Welcome to episode 130 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT. In this episode Dr. Cat speaks to me about BDSM, what does a BDSM relationship look like? How many people like some aspects of BDSM and learning to negotiate the rules and expectations.    Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro science, somatic theory, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work for private practice, workshops, and transformational retreats that are designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. For personal therapy work, check her out at CatMeyer.com     She is the co-creator of Goddess Celebration, an annual large scale women’s day retreat held in Malibu, CA, dedicated

Welcome to episode 129 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rachel Grant. We speak about healing from childhood sexual abuse, the sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face and going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor.    Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.      She brings to the table a passionate belief that her clients do not have to remain trapped or confronted daily by the thoughts or behaviors that result from abuse. Through her own journey of recovery from sexual abuse, she has gained insight and understanding about what it takes to overcome abuse. This makes it possible for her to relate to and appreciate your struggles intimately.      Based on her desire to foster community, intimacy, and connection, she has dedicated much of her time to understanding relationships and co

    Welcome to episode 128 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I speak more in depth about talking to your kids about sex.    In this episode, you will hear:     The sex negative messages we receive as kids   What to do if you catch your child involved with sexual activity   Learning how to communicate the subject of sex to your child  The importance of talking about your values   Understanding that children are naturally curious about sex  The common sexual behaviours between child age groups   Be comfortable in using the correct names and terminology around sex  The importance of teaching them about personal boundaries   Providing clear information around safety   Having a good dialogue about sex on the internet  Understanding the importance of not providing negative information around body changes   Talking about basic self-contraception   Having a continued discussion around masturbation and consent  Explaining the various different sexual interests 

Welcome to episode 127 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a recap episode where I revisit some of our previous episodes to help bring you the best orgasmic tips.   In this episode, we will revisit:   Episode 39  Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, professor and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live fuller, richer lives through the art and science of psychology.  As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students, helping them find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards, and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association.  Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/10/03/everything-you-need-to-know-about-orgasm/  Episode 06  Dr Barbach’s work as a

Welcome to episode 126 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer a listener's question on what to do when his wife doesn’t want to have sex anymore.     In this episode, you will hear:     The definition of a sexless marriage   How this is a global issue   How sex is a form of attachment   The way in which no sex can be a by-product of relationship dissatisfaction   Why couples refrain from sex   The need to repair the relationship before tackling the issue of lack of sex   Understanding the need to reflect on your own wants and needs   The importance of processing these emotions   Trying to pinpoint when these issues first arose   The different stages of love we experience in a relationship   The importance of communication throughout this process   Creating time in your life to work on this issue   Tips and recommendations to help begin improving such as date nights   Introducing novelty into the relationship to create excitement   Understanding and tackli