Sexology

Welcome to episode 125 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Melvin speaks to me about chronic illness, the challenges of dealing with this issue, the uncertainty and anxiety it can create and tips on how to regain a sense of sexual normality.    Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. Dr Phillips has worked in several mental health and substance abuse treatment settings including outpatient community mental health, inpatient treatment, and private practice for the past 13 years.     He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, revalidating sexuality for couples with chronic pain and illness, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. He has published in the Journal

Welcome to episode 124 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Vanessa Marin to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about masturbation, the common myths surrounding female orgasm, how porn and the media only represent one kind of female body and experimenting with sex toys.   Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She’s here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.   She has bachelor’s degrees in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real Simple.    Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through courses like The Passion Project: A Couples’

Welcome to episode 123 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rae McDaniel to the podcast. In this episode they speak about the difference between being bisexual and heteroflexible, taking the first steps to explore your sexual curiosity and understanding the need to treat potential dates and partners with care and respect as you explore your sexual curiosity.    Rae McDaniel is a Gender and Certified Sex Therapist who works with folks feeling anxious and lost about a transition they’re experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity, or relationships. Rae also provide consultation & training for professionals and organizations wishing to uplevel their knowledge and expertise in these areas. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a therapy and healing collective in Chicago, Illinois.   Rae holds a Master of Education in Community Counseling from DePaul University in Chicago and is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois. Rae graduated from the University of Michigan’s

Welcome to episode 122 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Gina Gutierrez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about sexuality and desire, the differences between men and women when it comes to desire and arousal, the downsides of getting your sex education from porn and the need to make desire open, communicative and vocal.  Gina Gutierrez will probably ask you how you’re feeling when she meets you. As co-founder and CEO of Dipsea, Gina is an empathy-driven entrepreneur focused on helping women feel sexually, mentally, and emotionally empowered through audio storytelling. Dipsea’s stories help women tap into their sexuality on their own terms, unlock confidence, and develop a more holistic sense of well-being.  Armed with a degree in psychology from Duke, Gina saw her career as a brand strategist take off when she moved to the San Francisco Bay Area. There, she started working with leading startups and Fortune 500 companies, including Facebook, Google, Reebok, ThirdLove, and Do

Welcome to episode 121 of Sexology Podcast. Today, I am delighted to welcome Dr. Carmon Roman to the podcast. In this episode, we will analyze why sexual assault survivors might not report the assaults. Furthermore, we’ll review the approaches to helping survivors during their journey of recovery. Dr. Roman is a caring listener with over 25 years of experience in providing psychotherapy, in Mexico and California. She is also the host of a wonderful, bilingual weekly podcast, Emotions in Harmony, through which she weaves together the psychology and spirituality of both cultures. In this episode, you will hear about:  History of Denim Day Emotional barriers that might get in a way of reporting an assault Best ways for victims to protect themselves if they choose to report Role of family members in supporting survivors of sexual abuse True vs. false beliefs that a survivor might develop as a consequent of the incident The process of recovery   Resources https://emotionsinharmony.org/ http://www.sexologypodcas

  Welcome to episode 120 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome Jonathan Miller to the podcast, in this episode he speaks about ways in which can start to have difficult conversations around sex, the importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually and understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partner's thoughts and emotions.   Jonathan helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.   He truly believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life, and communication is the main ingredient. Growing up, he was never taught to fully express himself or hear others in a way that fostered connection. He is now committed to sharing his newfound passion for clear communication using his world-class training methodology.  In this episode, you wil

Welcome to episode 119 of the Sexology Podcast. In the run up to season 8 of Game of Thrones, this week’s episode is a solo episode where I discuss the five hottest sex scenes from the show and what we can learn from. In this episode, you will hear: Why people associate Game of Thrones as a more sexually charged shows than other TV shows Does the show give people a legitimacy to have taboo fantasies? The top five categories of sexual fantasy How physiological arousal doesn’t automatically correspond to your erotic template How group sex / orgies are at the top of most people's sexual fantasy Understanding the need to start slow when acting out role play with your partner The importance of role play in a relationship to keep elements of danger and excitement Understanding the attraction of a rape fantasy The sexual power play dynamics Game of Thrones creates in its scenes The role romance plays in a sexual fantasy Understanding why the Jon Snow and Ygritte sex scene is the most popular   Resources https:

Welcome to episode 118 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. Dr. Rhoda was my guest on episode 90 talking about Age Play and she returns to talk further about this issue. In this episode Dr. Rhoda touches upon how we can incorporate Age Play into a relationship, the role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed and how seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful. Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to hel

Welcome to episode 117 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lonnie Barbach to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Lonnie speaks to me about how to please your lover, the barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs, the importance of compatibility and chemistry and restoring intimacy. Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at the sex advisory and counseling unit at UCSF and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes. Her best known books include: For Yourself, For Each Other, Pleasures, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cofounder of Happy Couple a relationship game app designed to enhance a couple’s communication and satisfaction. In this episode,

Welcome to episode 116 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the strategies and tools that you may implement to feel confident about your body inside and outside the bedroom.   In this episode, I will discuss:    The statistics around how common it is to experience dissatisfaction about one’s body The relationship between weight concerns and mental health Improving your self-image as a way to transform your sexuality The mirror exercises that address negative views of one’s genitals. Strategies around getting comfortable with your body and your partner’s body Challenging your negative self-talk through writing letters     Resources Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode – https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

EP115 - Can Men Suffer from Low Libido?    Welcome to episode 115 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the issue of men who suffer from a low libido.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common misconceptions around this issue  Learning to understand that not all men have a high sexual desire   How low libido can commonly get mistaken with lack of sexual motivation   How men suffer from a similar issue to menopause called andropause  The contributing factors that lead to andropause  The importance of having a broad sexual life with your partner  Learning to be open and communicative about any sexual desires and fantasies you might want to try with your partner  The effects culture and religion can have around this issue   Recommendations on what you can do for treatment  How the strategy of “simmering” can help to improve this issue     Resources  Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode - https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/   

Welcome to episode 114 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski to the podcast. In this conversation, Emily speaks to me about orgasms, the contributing factors that lead to more intense orgasms, achieving orgasm through meditation and thoughts on G-spots.     Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.     She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confide

Welcome to episode 113 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Cheryl Fraser to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Cheryl speaks to me about keeping passion alive through long term relationships, recommendations for recreating thrill and excitement and approaching your partner with sexual ideas that might be considered taboo.     Dr. Cheryl Fraser is an award-winning sex therapist, and a Fulbright scholar who created the Become Passion home study series and the Awakened Lover weekend intensive for couples. She has a private practice in sex and couples' therapy. Personally, and professionally, Dr. Cheryl has confronted the intense, joyful, and painful emotions of relationships, from I Do to divorce, and on to Mindful Loving. This human touch makes her writing, workshops, and media appearances on sex and relationships so accessible and effective.     Dr. Cheryl completed her post-doctoral training at the University of California-San Francisco medical school. She conducted r

Welcome to episode 112 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Martha speaks to me about polyamorous relationships, the common misconceptions people have around polyamory, how therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective?    Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists.    In this episode, you will hear:     The alternative relationship structures Martha has worked with   How she became interested in polyamory   The challenges people face in polyamorous relat

Welcome to episode 111 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lourdes Viado to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Viado speaks to me about open relationships, how they work, the essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path and why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship.   Dr. Lourdes Viado is a depth psychologist, providing psychotherapy for adults in her private practice in Las Vegas NV, as well as mentorship and consulting services to clients world-wide.    She is a Myers-Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI) Certified Practioner and uses a Jungian approach in her work with clients, integrating mindfulness, dream work, shadow work, metaphor, literature, poetry and astrology in her work with clients  She is also the host of the top-rated Women In-Depth Podcast: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women, which has been downloaded over 225,000x in 96 countries and 6 continents.    In this episode, you will hear:     The different types of open relationship

Welcome to episode 110 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Janet Brito to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Brito speaks to me about why people fake orgasms, the reasons for doing so and ways to break through this issue and have better sex.     Dr. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She is a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and completed her postdoctoral fellowship from the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations.      Dr. Brito has been featured on many outlets, including The Huffington Post, Playboy, Healthline, Women’s Health Magazine, Thrive Global, a

Welcome to episode 109 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Shannon McHenry, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Shannon speaks to me about working with trauma and sexual assault victims, the challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality and how partners can support their loved ones through this process.    Shannon McHenry, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty focus in childhood trauma, rape and battering, and PTSD. She is a trauma therapist in Los Angeles and works with clients in her offices in Los Feliz and Torrance.     Combining clinical experience with a passion to support women in repairing their relationships with themselves and others, she has supported many to create a long-lasting recovery from destructive behaviors. Call Shannon today to book your first appointment.    If you are struggling with recovery and would like to know more about Shannon’s services, contact her today for a free consultation.    In

Welcome to episode 108 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Patti Britton who speaks to me this time about toxic shame; why are there so many people struggling with this issue? The methods she uses to help overcome toxic shame and working towards sexual self-realization.     Dr. Patti Britton is a Clinical Sexologist, Sexuality Educator and the Pioneer of Sex Coaching with top level credentials.  As a well-respected world leader in sexology, she is an academic, author of 5 books, popular speaker, trainer and workshop leader, and host of over 40 DVDs for couples’ sexual enhancement.     She is a frequent guest on expert summits, national television shows, documentaries, live talk and news radio, and is quoted in magazines, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health.  She has a private practice in Los Angeles area and via Skype globally.     Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of SexCoachU - the world’s premier credentialing and training organization for sex coaching wi

Welcome to episode 107 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am very excited to have returning to the podcast Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST. Wendy was my guest on episode 35 and joins me again to speak to me about porn addiction, the consequences of using porn compulsively, how mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery and sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction.   Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns. She is the coauthor, with her husband Larry Maltz of The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography. Wendy is also author of the recovery classic The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, coauthor of Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies, and the editor of two poetry anthologies that celebrate healthy sexual intimacy. Wendy’s popular educational website, www.HealthySex.com, pro

Welcome to episode 106 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Richmond who speaks to me about she became interested in sex tech, developments happening with teledildonic and the pros and cons of using sexbots.     Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). She is one of North America’s leading sex therapists serving Hollywood’s elite as well as prominent corporate clientele, nationally and internationally. With offices in New York, Los Angeles and Portland, Dr. Holly is a trusted authority on sexual health issues with a significant media following.     She is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and Women’s Health. She is a sought-after consultant in the sex tech industry and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and entertainment. Dr. Holly’s ‘