Sexology

Welcome to episode 105 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW who speaks to me about sensate focus in sex therapy, what sensate focus entails and how sensate focus touch can also help with pain.     Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, is co-director of the Institute for Sexual & Relationship Therapy & Training with Dr. Constance Avery Clark.Linda is a speaker, writer, adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University in St. Louis, and was formerly a research and clinical associate at Masters & Johnson Institute.     Linda Weiner is a diplomate in clinical social work, a certified diplomate in sexology (American Board of Sexology) and is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists as a sex therapist, supervisor, and CE provider.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Linda became interested in the specific techniques of sensate focus in sex therapy  What sensate focus entails   How

In this episode of Sexology, Dr. Nazanin Moali talks about the importance of setting up sex resolutions, why people’s resolutions’ fail and what are some of the best ways to transform your sex life according to the latest research.   In this episode, you will hear:    The barriers on improving your sexual life The importance of length and type of foreplay for experiencing a mind blowing sex How mindfulness and yoga can aid your libido Relationships between sexual function and sleep Three tips on tracking and improving your sleep The first step you need to take if you want to incorporate mindfulness in your daily routine   References: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12483 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30097137 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006899311014302 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0005796714000497 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15497058         Resources https://mindwell.healthy.ucla.edu/resources/sleep-well/ https://www.fac

Welcome to episode 103 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Laurie Betito about female sexual desires. In this episode, we discuss factors that may lead a woman to lose her sexual desire and the steps she must take to improve her intimate relationships.   Dr. Laurie is a clinical psychologist with a specialty in sex therapy, and has been a practicing psychotherapist for close to 30 years. For the last 27 years she has been doing radio and television, dispensing sex and relationship advice.  She is a regular contributor to various magazines, newspapers and television shows. She is the host of a nightly Canadian syndicated call in show called Passion, where she discusses issues related to sexuality with her listeners. Dr. Laurie is also President of the Sexual Health Network of Quebec  and Past President of the Canadian Sex Research Forum.   Dr. Laurie is the author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50. She is also the Director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center, an online sex

Welcome to episode 102 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to give five tips to boost your sexual confidence.     In this episode, you will hear:     Ways to improve yourself image and be comfortable with your own body   Modifying your definition of great sex   Improving your sexual techniques and practices  Understanding the need for your own pleasure and knowing it’s ok to masturbate   The important of exercise in relation to sex     Resources  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 101 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Herman who speaks to me about common causes of sexual pain for women, the extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues and exercises women can do to help prevent injuries.    Dr. Hollis Herman (Holly) has been a physical therapist for 43 years. Her passion is musculoskeletal function and dysfunction in Functional Health in the LGBT community and is Board Certified as an Orthopedic, Women’s Health, Biofeedback Specialist. Holly is an AASECT certified Sexuality Counselor and an ISSWSH Sexuality Fellow.  She has pioneered physical therapy evaluation and treatment of problems that involve urologic, colorectal, obstetric, gynecologic, reproductive and sexual medicine.     She maintains a vibrant private practice, HealthyWomen HealthyMen HealthyPeople, in Cambridge, MA, seeing patients in addition to training thousands of health professionals in these areas of health worldwide.    Holly has au

Welcome to episode 100 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back our very first guest of the podcast; Dr. Albert Wong who speaks to me this time about the challenge’s men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom, how intimacy can be sexually arousing and steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles. Dr. Albert Wong is an Associate Professor and Core Faculty in the Holistic Counseling Psychology Program at JFK University. A former Marshall Scholar, he has longstanding interests in the intersection of performance art, somatics, psychotherapy, and scalable technology. He served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years. He has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and in the book The American Soul Rush. His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival.

Welcome to episode 99 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to talk about the relationship between sex and recreational drugs: alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, MDMA, amphetamines and hallucinogens.     In this episode, you will hear:     The way in which alcohol affects your sexual experience   How aggressive tendencies can be amplified when having sex under the influence of alcohol   How alcohol and cannabis affect sex in very different ways   How some women struggle to concentrate during sex after taking cannabis   The way in which cocaine has a chronic prolonged effect  Reports that suggest many people reach orgasm when coming down from MDMA  The mixed responses people have reported from sex whilst taking amphetamines  How hallucinogens have been known to help with sexual fantasies       Resources  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal 

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.     Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible.    Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidel

Welcome to episode 97 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller who talks to us about sexual fantasies, the influence culture has in this area and understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire.     Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including ca

Welcome to episode 96 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Melissa Novak who speaks to us about the underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety, the way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue and learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs.    Melissa Novak a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Certified Sex Therapist, specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction, personality disorders as well as depression and anxiety-related disorders.  She specializes in working with adults, and couples on a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, OCD, and PTSD. Melissa has a particular interest in working with those struggling with sexual dysfunction and those concerned about some aspect of their sexual behavior.     In addition to providing individual therapy, Melissa serves as an educator and supervisor within the Chicagoland community and currently teaches as an adjunct professor at the Univers

Welcome to episode 95 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Jordan Rawlins and F.C Brandt who speak to me about their new book E Is For Erotica, the exploration of open and non-monogamous relationships and how our relationships are continually evolving.     Jordan Rawlins is a Southern California native who made a living as a poker player, stuntman, actor and trained as a magician, before finding his place as a writer. His children's movie, “Rescue Dogs,” opened in theaters nationwide in 2016. He was a semi-finalist for the 2018 Academy Nicholl Fellowship. On the digital front, he has worked with Maker Studios and Defy Studios on various projects. In 2018 he worked with WBTV and Amore and Vita on a new half-hour series. A playwright, his stage plays have been seen in theaters across America and in London. He has numerous projects for the big and small screen in various stages of development. He is the author of the novel "Monsters of the Apocalypse" and the comedy Alpha

  Welcome to episode 94 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Chanta Blue who speaks to us about what the life of a swinger entails, why she became interested in working with this community and is the stigma attached to swingers changing?    Chanta Blue is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist and co-owner of Blue Counseling & Wellness Center in Montclair, NJ. She holds a B.A. in Psychology from Spelman College, a Master’s degree in Social Work from Rutgers University, and a Master’s of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. Chanta’s aim is to empower girls and women of color to clarify and create the career, relationships, sexuality, and overall lifestyle they desire.     She specializes in issues related to anxiety, depression, self-esteem, body image and works with folks in various relationship styles including polyamory, swinging, kink, and traditional relationships.    In this episode, you will hear:     What does the sw

Welcome to episode 93 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT who speaks to me about common themes around coming out as transgender, the difference between gender identity and sexual identity and when is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?     Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Florida, Transgender Care Certified Therapist, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, Florida Department of Children and Family approved Parenting Care Provider. She holds EU earned degrees M.A. in Psychology and Law, and PhDr. in Clinical Psychology. She recently finished her PhD. in Family Therapy at Nova Southeastern University, Fort Lauderdale.    Eva was born in former Czechoslovakia so rebelling and craving for diversity and freedom are in her DNA. Eva worked in international business and got the opportunity to become familiar with many countries around the world. Before she moved to Florida, she became a resident

Welcome to episode 92 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who speaks to us about jealousy, the need for open and understanding communication around this issue and steps couples can do to help manage jealousy.     Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     Whose job is it to talk about and address jealousy?   The need for open and understanding communication when it comes to jealousy   Ways the offender of jealousy can reassure their partner   Behaviours to look out for when you might be feeling jealous   What

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to us about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.     Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.     Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.     Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to me about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients a

Welcome to episode 90 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb who speaks to me about what adult age play entails, how shame and embarrassment surround this issue and how a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue.     Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL.    She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.     Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality

Welcome to episode 89 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about the issue of low desire and the steps you can take to improve your sex life even if you have low desire.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common factors that contribute to low libido  Understanding whether your issue is more psychological or physiological   How relationship issues affect low desire   Understanding that sex is not perfect and that it’s ok not to be on your A-game every time you have sex  Learning to create an erotic environment   Communicating these issues as a couple and learning how to help each other    Resources  http://www.sexologypodcast.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care      Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 88 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Steve Bodansky (he was a guest on episode 59) to the podcast, this time Steve speaks to me about his new book Love and Alzheimer’s, the changes that Steve and his wife Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s.     Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Master’s in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.     Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Wel

Welcome to episode 87 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Sonalee Rashatwar who talks to us about the concept of sexual colonization and what it means, the ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body” and what we can do to create more body inclusive sex education.   Sonalee Rashatwar (she/they), MSW, LCSW, MEd is an award-winning social worker, sex therapist, adjunct lecturer, and grassroots organizer. Based in Philly, she is a fat queer nonbinary therapist working as a sexual violence crisis counselor, specializing in treating sexual trauma, body image issues, racial or immigrant identity issues, and South Asian family systems, while offering fat and body positive sexual healthcare.   Popularly known as TheFatSexTherapist on Instagram, their fame hit an all time high when they were featured on Breitbart in March 2018 for naming thinness as a white supremacist beauty ideal. Sonalee is a sought-after speaker who travels nationally

Welcome to episode 86 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about a listener’s email around the subject of masturbation and why her husband still feels the need to masturbate whilst in a marriage.      In this episode, you will hear:     How wanting to have separate fantasies away from the relationship can lead to more masturbation   The stigma around this issue, studies have shown very few women know their partners masturbate frequently   Why sexual boredom can increase masturbation frequency   How masturbation can be used as a self-regulator for relief   Understanding that this is a very common issue, but there is currently limited studies and data to know more   Steps that can be taken to address this issue     Resources  http://www.sexologypodcast.com  https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2014.958790 https://site.themarriagebed.com/sexuality/masturbation/solo-masturbation-in-marriage/ https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care