Sexology

Welcome to episode 85 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, we are joined by Midori who talks to us about how she began her journey into sex education, learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually and recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom.    Midori is a renowned sexuality educator, author, and artist based in San Francisco. She emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought-after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfilment, and kinky adventures.    Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills but in her ability to deconstruct and distil complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed ind

Welcome to episode 84 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Timothy Wienecke who talks to us about the way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service, how masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways and the importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues.   Timothy Wienecke has spent the last decade training and educating in a variety of settings on a broad range of topics. He got started as a primary trainer for various technical positions as a Signals Analyst working with the NSA. That is where he realized he enjoys giving people the skills and knowledge they need to be effective in the places that are important to them. Timothy's command noticed his passion and tapped him for a more delicate and difficult task to be a primary trainer for the Air Force’s Bystander Intervention program. There he spent the next three years training over 3000 Airmen how to notice and engage effectively to stop harassment and sexual assault before it happens. I

Welcome to episode 83 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. who talks to us about the common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery, the difference between healthy sex and addictive sex and incorporating your values into your sexuality.     Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and the recipient of the 2018 IITAP Leadership and 2012 Carnes Award. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist/Supervisor and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist/Supervisor specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction and other sexual disorders.     Dr. Katehakis is author of Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan (2018), Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (2016), co-author of the 2015 AASECT awa

Welcome to episode 82 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Christine Macinnis who speaks to me about she became interested in working with transgender people, the best ways and practices we can all support transgender people and the issues they face when coming out.    Due to over 20 years working in local schools as a school counselor, Christine brings a unique perspective to her work in private practice. She loves assisting the adolescent through the trials of depression, anxiety, school and learning issues, gender and sexual identity confusion, and the adjustment to college and launching from their family.     In addition to her work with teenagers, Christine has a passion for the challenges and celebration of sexual and gender identity for all age groups. As a Certified LGBT-Affirmative Psychotherapy Provider, she has supported several transgender clients and families as they progress through the process of transition and acceptance. In terms of support outside of our sessions, Christine

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to share some personal and revealing stories about my own experience with sex therapists.     In this episode, you will hear:     How difficulties with sex affected a previous relationship   The ways in which this led to seeking out sex therapy   The difference between sex therapy, sex educator, sex surrogate and sex coaches   How our educational systems lack good information on sex   The need for patients to understand what it is they want to work on   Understanding what can get in the way psychologically to stop you experiencing pleasure   How it’s ok to receive sex therapy as a couple or on your own   Knowing how to choose the right sex therapist for you     Resources  https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   https://oasis2care.com/torrance/find-right-therapist-los-angeles-ca/  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasi

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who joined me on episode 79. In this episode, we talk about the fidelity agreement, how technology is changing our fidelity agreement and what gets in the way of having these conversations?    Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What is a fidelity agreement?  How what is considered cheating for some couples, isn’t for others   The need for independence on your thoughts and desires   How is technology evolving our fidelity agreement?  Making a sustainabl

Welcome to episode 79 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Ari Tuckman who talks to us about Teledildonics, the common ways people use this technology and what the future will hold as this technology continues to grow.     Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What does Teledildonic mean?  The huge variety of technology for remote sex where tactile sensations that’s now available   How Teledildonics could help prevent cheating   The common ways people use this technology   Ways in which to incorporate Teledildonic to increase novelty in

Welcome to episode 78 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Jennifer Weeks. In this episode, Dr. Weeks talks us about pornography addiction along with discussion on evidence-based treatments for out of control sexual behaviors. Also, we evaluate the differences between healthy and unhealthy reliance on pornography as a method for mood regulation.   Dr. Jennifer Weeks is the founder and director of Sexual Addiction Treatment Services, an out-patient treatment program for out of control sexual behavior. She has over twelve years experience treating all aspects of addiction, trauma and addiction, sexual addiction, and sex offenders. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist- Supervisor, Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Ph.D. in Psychology. Dr. Weeks is the author of the blog, Dr. Jen’s Recovery Readings as well as the prevention book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen about Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age.  

Welcome to episode 77 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Marie-Claire Thauvette who talks to us about what inspired her to write the book "Honeymoon Playbook", why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex and learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements.    Marie-Claire Thauvette is a familiar face in the industry, and has been featured on many podcasts, summits, radio and television shows. Her new book “The Honeymoon Playbook” is a best seller in 3 categories, and with it has really helped new and not so new couples spice up their lives in and out of the bedroom.    She is also a successful entrepreneur, professional educator, and woman on a mission: to teach individuals and couples alike about the power of intimacy, sex and communication – and how to have FUN doing it. MC combines her over 30 years of teaching experience and her AASECT and ISEE Sexual Educator certifications to reignite passion in singles and couples.   

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.     Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy.    Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.     When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same.    In this episode, you

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.     Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist.    After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of je

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.     Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour.    In this episode, you will hear:     The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area   How stress levels have impacted our sexuality   The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality   Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship   Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness  The ways in which

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters.    Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs.    She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Co

Welcome to episode 72 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Alice Little who is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, she is 4ft 8 and works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.       Alice writes advice articles for She Knows Media and has been a guest on the Tim Ferriss Show. She has been interviewed and featured by CNN, ABC’s Nightline, Re nery29, Quartz, Shane and Friends, and other podcasts and news outlets. She is a proponent of sex positivity and women’s rights and has marched for equality. Alice is also one of the founders of the “Hookers for Healthcare” movement, petitioning the government for effective health care that works for everyone.    Alice frequently sees couples in and out of the bedroom, coaching them on how to enhance their relationships, increase the quality of their communication, and help bring intimacy back into their interactions. She hosts a weekly vidcast titled ‘Coffee with Alice,’ where she discusses sex work, fields questions, and aims to inform on all thing

Welcome to episode 71 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Cox who talks to us about the developing rape culture in our society, how we can combat objectification of men and women and the need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences.   Robert Cox is a therapist in private practice in Liberty, MO.  He specializes in the treatment of Trauma, Addictions and Autism.  Robert creates a podcast providing psycho-education and mindfulness training called Mindful Recovery. In addition, he is a guest blogger on the Huffington Post.      In this episode, you will hear:   What is rape culture and who does it protect?  Roberts experience of defending his daughter for wearing “in appropriate” clothing in school   Why we shouldn’t protect anyone who has abused or raped women, even if they are close friends or relatives   Making sure we don’t invalidate people’s experiences   How men need to take more responsibility for their hormones and actions   How we can

  Welcome to episode 70 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Kandell who speaks to me about non-monogamous relationships, the pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship and advice on how to approach this topic with others.   Robert Kandell has 18 years’ experience in helping men find themselves. Through the practice of absolute approval in his teaching, he sees those parts that are hidden in their shadows. These are the fetishes, hurts, or hidden desires. He draws them out with a firm but loving hand so what was once hidden can now become internal power.   An expert in interpersonal communication and relationship, he has helped thousands of students become happier, have better relationships, more sex, and a more balanced, energized life. Working with Robert is not for the faint of heart. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving dad and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Robert became interested in this area   The pr

    Welcome to episode 69 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. M. Max Ezzati M.D., FACOG who speaks to us about the common misconceptions around fertility treatment, how struggles with infertility can have an impact on sexual relations and recommendations for couples currently going through this process.   Dr. Ezzati is a fertility specialist and reproductive surgeon at Palo Alto Medical Foundation, affiliated with Sutter Health in the Bay Area in Northern California. Dr. Ezzati received his medical degree from Tehran University in Tehran, Iran. After medical school, Dr. Ezzati moved to England to pursue specialty training in obstetrics and gynecology at the teaching hospitals of the University of Cambridge and the University of London, where he also served as a clinical lecturer.  In 2007, Dr. Ezzati moved to the United States and completed his internship and residency at Georgetown University Hospital/Washington Hospital Center, in Washington, D.C. Following his residency, he completed a fell

Welcome to episode 68 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 10 years. In this episode, she speaks to me about her thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay, discovering your own body and pleasures and actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life.   Renelle knows that you are facing a lot of challenges right now from dealing with Anxiety, Depression and even disbelief. You may also have been given an ultimatum in your relationship. Relax and take a deep breathe, now come in and let’s talk about your concerns. At Kaleidoscope, her passion and goal is to help you develop the skills that are needed to address the challenges that you are currently faced with. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, lack of desire or Infidelity, it is important for you to know you don’t have to go through this alone. If there is a pr

Welcome to episode 67 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Erica Garza who talks to us about her book Getting Off, the connection between sexual shame and addiction and the story of her recovery from sexual addiction  Born in Los Angeles to Mexican parents, Erica Garza has spent most of her adult life traveling and living abroad. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Erica’s essays have appeared in Salon, Narratively, BUST, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, Refinery29, Bustle, Alternet, Vivala, HelloGiggles, the Los Angeles Review, and Australia’s Mamamia and The Motherish.   She has appeared as a guest on BBC Radio 4, Thom Hartmann’s The Big Picture, and August McLaughlin’s Girl Boner Radio. In 2010, she earned her MFA in Creative Nonfiction at Columbia University. Her memoir on sex addiction, Getting Off, is her first book.   Her addiction follows and transforms with her in each point in her coming-of-age, which spans the transition from dial-up to digital in the 1990s and

EP66 - Joy of intimacy with Rabbi Manis Friedman   Welcome to episode 66 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Rabbi Manis Friedman who speaks to me about his book The Joy of Intimacy, the difference between sex and intimacy, how pornography has degraded intimacy and how giving each other space can improve intimacy.   World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. He hosts his own critically acclaimed cable television series, Torah Forum with Manis Friedman, syndicated throughout North America. Over 150,000 copies of his provocative yet entertaining tapes, both audio and video have been sold.   Rabbi Friedman’s first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, was widely praised and is currently in its fourth printing. Rabbi Friedman is a noted Biblical scholar, recognized for his sagacious grasp of Jewish mysticism and a professionally ran