Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Why do we keep crashing into the same walls in love? In this conversation with Chris Williamson on his Modern Wisdom podcast, we explore the patterns that keep us stuck—whether it’s chasing unavailable partners, mistaking chaos for passion, or repeating cycles that leave us unfulfilled. We also talk about why these behaviors feel so familiar and how they’re often rooted in our past experiences rather than our actual desires. But here’s the good news: Breaking free is possible. And in this episode, you’ll learn how to rewire your instincts and create a new reality where peace and connection replace anxiety and uncertainty.  -- ►► Plan big, stay focused, and see your year at a glance with the Big A## Calendar. Use code LOVELIFE for 10% off at thebigasscalendar.com/discount/LOVELIFE  ►►  Grab your in-person or virtual ticket to the Weekend Retreat: MHRetreat.com ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com

So you slept with a guy. It was good. But now you wake up and have that awkward moment... what now? And how do you keep him attracted afterwards? People tend to get a little awkward in dating after “getting physical” for the first time. I get it. You want to play it cool, but you also make sure this guy knows you’re interested. So here are 3 killer techniques that will make him desperate to see you again... --  ►► Up to $500 Off – Grab your in-person or virtual discounted ticket to the Weekend Retreat before prices go up after Friday, July 25, at midnight PT: RetreatAccess.com  ►► Limited-Time Confidence Challenge Replay (which includes a special offer): MHReplay.com ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com  

How do you know if it’s love or obsession? What does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about someone who doesn’t return your feelings?   In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey talk about the phenomenon of limerence, how it can leave you always clinging to hope in dating, and strategies to get yourself out of a one-sided attraction.    Topics include:   The psychology of limerence and how it arises.   How we become blinded by obsession and stop seeing the reality in front of our eyes.   The 2 most dangerous emotions that keep us hooked.   The difference between limerence and a crush.   How to escape the trap of obsession and find healthy love.    Links   See your year at a glance with the Big A## Calendar—your key to staying organized and intentional. Get 10% off with code LOVELIFE at thebigasscalendar.com/discount/LOVELIFE Join Matthew’s 30-Day Confidence Challenge – MHChallenge.com Try Matthew AI (ask any relationship question) – AskMH.com

Why do we chase the wrong people and even push away the relationships we say we want? In this week’s episode, I speak with entrepreneur and bestselling author Lewis Howes, and we unpack the surprising ways we can sabotage love without even realizing it. From being attracted to what feels exciting but unavailable to letting old wounds dictate our instincts, we explore why the “good ones” can feel less appealing, and how we can retrain our brains. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to the wrong people or why healthy love feels strange, this conversation is going to hit home. --  ►► Elevate your planning this month with the Big A## Calendar. Big goals, big wins. Use code LOVELIFE for 10% off. Grab yours now: thebigasscalendar.com/discount/LOVELIFE. ►► Limited-Time Confidence Challenge Replay (which includes a special offer): MHReplay.com ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com

You know those tricky early dates? You go for drinks. Maybe a picnic. You pretend you listen to cool music and hope you both enjoy similar taste in movies. Then texting. Then maybe a kiss. (Why not? He’s cute.) Uh-oh, now you actually like him. Crap. Err, I mean, great. Now what? If you really want to know how to keep him interested well after the first date, so you can finally stop freaking out whenever you realize you like a guy, this is the epsidoe for you... --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Does flirting make you nervous? Not sure how to make the first move? In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey break down invisible flirting techniques that can spark chemistry without things feeling forced or awkward. Whether you’re too shy to make a move, afraid of rejection, or just unsure about how to flirt with someone already in your life, this episode will give you the tools to take the first step forward. Topics Covered: Why flirting feels awkward or unnatural for so many people. The subtle signs that actually signal romantic interest. How to flirt with someone you already know. Touch as a form of flirting—when it works and when it backfires. The kinds of DMs that actually open the door for connection. How to flirt through contrast, play, and shared jokes. The difference between playful teasing and emotional defensiveness. What to do if they don’t respond to your flirting attempt. How to show desire without fear or desperation. Flirting beyond your 20s: why it still wor

Are you stuck obsessing over someone who’s wrong for you? In this week’s epsiode, I dive into the concept of limerence—the unhealthy fixation on someone who doesn’t return your feelings—and how it can keep you chasing as your confidence falls lower and lower. I’ll show you how to recognize the signs of limerence, why it thrives on hope and uncertainty, and what you can do to break free and get your power back. If you’ve ever felt trapped in this emotional loop, this is your way out! --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRet

When we first date someone, we can’t keep our hands off them. All we want to do is take them home and spend all night in bed together. But what about when the infatuation stage is over? Can you still keep up the chase even though you’re both in a stable and comfortable relationship? In this week’s episode of Love Life, I explain the psychology behind why so many couples get lazy and lose attraction over time, and show how you can avoid that by taking on a few key behaviors to boost the DESIRE in your relationship so that you and your partner always feel irresistibly attracted to each another. --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your R

In today’s episode, Matthew is joined by bestselling author Sahil Bloom, whose book The Five Types of Wealth challenges everything we think we know about success. Together they dive into the tension between chasing money and cultivating a deeply fulfilling life—especially in the age of comparison and social media. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel behind or empty, this conversation is a must-listen.

If you’ve ever been ghosted, you know how brutal it feels. It’s like the floor suddenly dropped out from under you. But here’s the truth: Ghosting isn’t about you—it’s usually about the other person’s immaturity or inability to have a hard conversation.  In this episode, I’ll explain why people ghost in modern dating, and show you how to stop getting stuck on people who flake and disappear, so you focus on people who truly value you. Life is too short to waste on people who don’t show up. --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeek

In this week's episode of Love Life, I speak with Sarah who had just started dating her "dream guy" before things took a turn for the worst when she left for a week. With his attention lost, we discuss the subtle ways she can regain it. --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com  

In this episode, Matthew sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip (@drmorgancutlip) to explore the real work of modern relationships. Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this is a must-listen for anyone who wants to learn how to communicate their needs, set boundaries, and grow closer to their partner without losing themselves in the process. Topics Covered: What actually changes when you become parents, and how to prepare for it. Why resentment builds when your needs go unspoken. Dr. Cutlip’s “Ultimate Compliment Formula” for deeper emotional connection. How to love someone in the way they need to be loved (even if it doesn’t come naturally). What the “mental load” is and why it’s a hidden relationship-killer. How to talk about imbalance in a relationship without triggering defensiveness. The difference between compromise and losing yourself in a relationship. How to bring up your needs without guilt. What makes someone “relationship ready” in dating. How individuali

In my 30s, I realized some truths about relationships that took me years to really learn. I used to believe in a lot of romantic myths. But in this week’s new episode, I share the hard-earned truth that certainty in love isn’t something you find on day one—it’s something you have to decide to build and invest in.  You’ll also learn the difference between “settling for” and “settling on” someone, and why the latter is the key to creating a love that lasts. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by the fear of choosing the wrong person, or overwhelmed by your search for “the one,” this is the mindset shift you need. --  ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com  ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Tr

Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness. But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person? Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to whether their sporadic phone usage is consistent in their life or reserved just for you. At some point, they might’ve even shared a generic line with you like, “I’m so rubbish with my phone,” or “I’m really bad at replying to people!” But is this really true? In this week’s episode, I not only answer these questions, but I dig into a really common mistake people make in this area. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Mom

Do you feel like time is running out to find love? Whether you’re worried about starting a family, comparing yourself to friends who are coupled up, or just feeling urgent pressure to “catch up” in your dating life, this episode is for you. Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey explore how to handle dating confidently when the stakes feel high, and how to avoid letting fear and anxiety sabotage your decisions. If you’ve ever felt behind—unsure whether to stay hopeful or make a bold change—this episode will give you the tools to find love and ease the pressure others try to put on you. In this episode we cover: Why the fear of “running out of time” is so common in dating today. How to create urgency without falling into panic mode. The illusion of progress: How “distraction relationships” can quietly steal years of your life. Real stats on women having children after 35. How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s. Reframing societal pressure and internal anxiety. Dating intentionally vs.

I have something really cool to share today, This is a conversation I had with Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast, where we talked about the modern dating dilemma of endless options and the fear of settling. We discussed the danger of always looking for “someone better” as a dating strategy, why we miss out on meaningful connections, and how to find a real relationship rather than optimizing for the perfect partner. If you’ve ever felt like you’re always torn between chasing someone exciting or someone who brings you peace, this episode will help you create a love life that actually works for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com  

What could possibly be more painful than rejection? Turns out, there's one feeling that IS. In this week's Rewind episode, I reveal what it is and share the one mindset that will get you over your fear of rejection once and for all so you can finally put yourself "out there" without worrying about getting hurt again... --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you’re dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn’t want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links:

What makes someone truly irresistible in the early stages of dating? In this episode, I share four powerful ways to boost your attractiveness in the first weeks of getting to know someone . . . so you can create intrigue and keep things moving forward. If you’re over surface-level chats, have a hard time balancing your heart and your head, or just feel stuck, this one’s for you. I also tell a personal story that shows how small changes can make a huge impact on your dating life. Don’t miss it!   ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

This week’s video will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to the point that leaving the relationship is the only option. Understanding this model may just save your self-respect, sanity, and happiness. And once you know how it works, red flags will be much easier to spot. This is a video you’ll also want to return to anytime you’re stuck in that fog of fear and confusion and want to feel a sense of clarity . . . so you can stop second-guessing your choices and move on with confidence. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . .