Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since. The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected. I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actually get hit with. It’s the one you think about and fear in your mind. That means that even without literally being rejected, we experience the pain by imagining it over and over again. On top of that, we beat ourselves up for all the things we are missing out on as a result of our fear: potential partners, opportunities, experiences, adventures, and most importantly – our full potential. Fear of rejection is one of the most human things in the world. We all experience it. But how can we learn to manage it, live with it, and even occasionally, overcome it? I know you’ve been dealt some really unfair situations. I know

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up). What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment. And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and-blood conversations. Both men and women defer to trying to look impressive (through their career, fancy degree, social status) instead of making a real connection. One reason we avoid being genuine in our compliments is because we’re scared to put ourselves on the line. And yet, there is this weird phenomenon: we tend to like people who actually see something special about us. If you agree and want some practical advice on being memorable in other people's eyes, listen to this episode... --- Learn the 5 compliments that everyone loves to hear. Download the free guide at SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Stephen @stephenhh

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you. One of them works for when you first message someone on an app… The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person… The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with. This episode is super practical. Take a few minutes to watch it, then use one of these compliments today. If you’re not going to use one of them, you’re not allowed to listen to it. OK? Don’t listen to this episode then NOT use one of them, because I’LL KNOW. ;) Hope you’re having a great day, you beautiful human. ►► Get 5 More Compliments That Build Serious Attraction. Tap Below to Download Your Free Guide... → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you!  It's time to start being ok with being weird... --- Email us at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Stephen: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they aren’t looking for a relationship. If you feel any of these things, I made this for you. If you feel you’re close to giving up on this area of your life, I have no righteous ground to take in telling you you’re wrong. I completely understand it. It is unbelievably frustrating, especially when you want nothing more than to just get on with sharing your life with that special person instead of more time passing without them in it. You’re not weak or crazy for feeling the way you do, so give yourself a break. But before y

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and more into our shell and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential partner This is exhausting. It’s unfair. And it doesn’t do justice to who you really are on the inside and everything you have to give to the world. It’s an overwhelming step to think about how to suddenly become supremely confident. So let’s do something more modest today. In this episode, I want to share a small thing you can start doing today to get back your self-esteem and begin to reclaim your core confidence... ►► Deep down, if you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life.

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better? If so, this is required listening. To do something special for my Love.Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch (@GuyWinch) on for a special hour to help people overcome pain and hurt. Guy Winch is one of the world’s foremost experts on dealing with heartbreak and “emotional first-aid.” This episode is a special moment taken from that hour where Guy talks about how to deal with moments of terrible pain in a productive and healthy way. As Rainer Maria Rilke said: “No feeling is final.” If you’re hurting right now, it’s going to get better. I promise. One step at a time. -- ►► Ready to join our members area and hear the full conversation (plus more LIVE coaching from Matt?) - go to AskMH.com to join our VIP community today!

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing.  Including: Why we get sucked in by love bombing What "red flags" to look for early on How to be (healthily skeptical) before diving into romance How to move on after heartbreak If you're ready to deep dive into your love life and want to see Matt answer real love questions on our live webinars, join our Love.Life VIP Members club at AskMH.com -- Follow Matt: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey -- Follow Stephen:  Instagram - @stephenhhussey Twitter - @stephenhhussey

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time? This episode solves that problem for you. In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know what you think once you’ve heard it, friend. Much love. P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through right now that others don’t know about, I love you and I’m with you. --- Follow Matthew: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey --- Follow Stephen:  Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey --- Email the show at podcast@matthewhussey.com! --- Download the FREE chapter of our How To Talk To Men program at GetTheFreeChapter.com 

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, that’s a bold statement. But when you see it, you’ll know why. My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life. And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situation with a man that gives you far less than you want or deserve, this is the most important thing you could do with your time today. And I rarely ask this, but please do more than listen to this. Share it with every woman you know. I have spent over a decade working with women in their love lives. I’d go as far as to say no one has been witness to more women throwing away their precious time on the wrong situations than me. My No.1 objective is for this episode to help you get brave enough to say “enough is enough” in your own life. My 2nd objective is for you to help me save the lives of other women – your friends

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads.   They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spend hours waiting for texts back only to get one-word answers, and they chase intimacy from people who only want attention/sex/validation...   I don’t have a dog in this fight. Being in a relationship can be incredible. But being single is also AMAZING and gets taken for granted way more often...."   --- Follow Steve: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites --- Want to build the self-worth and confidence that makes you TRULY fall in love with your life? Click here to reserve your spot on our next LIVE retreat program!

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial that if you forget to do it, you will inadvertently DOUBLE the amount of time it takes to get over your ex. See, most of us make bad decisions in a breakup. We drink to numb the pain, we have one-night stands with people we don’t care about, or we eat ourselves into oblivion with junk food. It sucks now, I know. But it will get better, trust me....  Blog → http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey Instagram (Matt) → https://www.instagram

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited to situations that have ended. Sometimes we are still seeing someone but we have this crippling anxiety over having irreversibly damaged the relationship. We feel we’ve created a perception of ourselves in that person’s eyes that we can’t now undo. If for any of these reasons you are currently torturing yourself, this episode will be life-saving for you today. Trust me when I say it is essential. I break down for you why you don’t need to be wallowing in pain, and why, despite everything that destructive voice inside is

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years. Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day. I know these things are hard. Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems. But if you want to know how to break free, let go of your baggage, and feel 100% more empowered, please, please make sure you hear this message. I’m going to share a mind-blowing story that will show how you can turn even the worst tragedies into a beautiful future...  --- Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 5 short days with me → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.com - Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey - Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere.  You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s episode I’ll show you… My hope is that this will not only give you a sense of closure, but also help you to move past the heartache you are feeling right now if this has happened to you. I also show you how to avoid it in the future.  Here for you, friend. Matthew x --- Join my exclusive members community at AskMH.com!  Email us YOUR love bombing story at podcast@matthewhussey.com  

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws? In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak.   --- Ready to transform your confidence and get the relationship you deserve? Get your copy of the At-Home Retreat at MHRetreatAtHome.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey    

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence. I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never have to worry about those people again. In today’s podcast, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dating a toxic person so you know exactly what to watch out for… >>> Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the FREE confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.com  

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples. Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at podcast@matthewhussey.com!  >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey >>> Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.com

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you. You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now. This isn’t isn’t a pep talk. It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3). ►► Be Brave and Invest in Love Again. To Learn How, Download Your FREE Guide… → http://www

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)... You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating... It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this podcast is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it.  >>> Follow Matt @thematthewhussey >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the flirting sample of How To Talk To Men at GetTheFreeChapter.