Love Life With Matthew Hussey

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be. Another weekend rolls around, my weekly video spot awaits my thoughts, and I have no clever words chambered. It doesn’t feel like the week for a love life video. And yet it does feel like a week where I want to be with you, my community, more than ever. I ask politely that you not confuse that with my having any answers. All I have is me, letting the Black members of my community know what I have always felt – that I consider you my sisters and brothers, and that I, Matthew Hussey, stand with you, always. The fact that Black lives “mattering” is ev

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www.AskMH.com  This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives. Is it safe to go out on dates in the coming months? When should you meet up with someone you’ve been talking to? How do you deal with awkward moments like the first hello where you would normally hug each other? Is there an elegant way to communicate what level of contact you are comfortable with? These are all questions I answer in this episode. At the beginning of COVID-19, I made a video outlining the immediate impact of this virus on our love lives. Consider this a round 2, but this time with a focus on the future of da

Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it. See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others. Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned some really important distinctions that make people certain people immediately compelling. I’ve also learned some major things people get wrong that must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over… (more on that in the video) So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds… ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him

I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs. We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent? In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid making the mistakes that are hurting good relationships... This isn’t just about getting space, it’s about bringing back the moments of magic, and romance, and love. Even if you’re not living with someone right now, you can use these ideas to make sure your long-distance situation stays vibrant and alive. Your situation may be different, but the psychology is the same. Thinking of you, friend. Matt ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to

From Stephen (@stephenhhussey) People spend a lot of time asking the question: “How to do I get my partner to open up?” But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart. The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request.  I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to express what’s really going on inside. So if you want your partner, family, or friends to open up emotionally, here are 4 worries that are probably going through their minds that need to be dealt with first...  

“WTF? Do not use this.” This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy who is on your mind right now. In fact, this text really seemed to divide people. Someone even said it could result in “catastrophe.” And this comment had likes. A lot of them. W. T. F. So, despite the fact that I was going to move on to a different topic this week, my director Jameson Jordan politely (feistily) asked (demanded) that I respond to these comments. And I never say no to Jameson when he gets feisty. So, here is that response... You might be a little surprised by my response, because if you felt like the texts I suggested were a little dangerous, it might reveal a bigger, deeper, more important red flag at play. I hope you enjoy it. And if you don’t, please don’t leave any more comments that make Jameson make me do more work. I’m tired, and I’m in my pajamas. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compli

Hey :) In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem. Think of them as little bits of irresistible charm that you can send to the guy who is on your mind right now. These texts are designed to bring a smile to his face (and yours), as well as kick off a playful dynamic so you can develop (or strengthen) your bond – even when you’re not physically together. Just because we’re stuck inside it doesn’t mean we can’t flirt, whether it’s with someone we’ve been seeing for months or someone we just met. In fact, we must flirt – none of our romantic situations will survive without it. Thinking of you, friend. P.S. Stay to the end of the clip to get a whole list of cheeky texts you can use to keep the attraction going. #8 is my personal favorite – adorable and sexy at the same time. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.

There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great. It goes like this: “Make it a rule only to like people who like you back. If you can do that, you’ll never go wrong.” Sounds tough, I know.  After all, attraction isn’t a simple choice right? Many of us feel we have no control over who we become attracted to, which can often lead to that great generator of humanity’s worst misery and best poetry: Unrequited love. Unrequited love is when we fall hard in love with someone who don’t love us back. It’s the painful kind of obsession that keeps you awake at night, and sees you spending hours at your laptop obsessively scouring your crush’s Facebook profile praying that they don’t change their status to “in a relationship”, or that makes your stomach convulse at the thought of catching them kissing another person. If you've ever fallen hard for someone who doesn't return your feelings, here 5 reasons this happens and what y

Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.” And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you. But she’s too busy with her phone to notice. You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds. Sound familiar? We’ve all had this agony of “anxious waiting” with someone we like. It’s distracting, it’s unattractive, and it drains you of your peace of mind every minute you sit in limbo. If you’re sick of waiting for his text and want to finally take back your power, listen to this... --- Apply for our next retreat program at matthewhusseyretreat.com Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey 

One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me".  People tell ourselves the lie that there are either: (a) Boring, safe, dependable nice guys (b) Exciting, sexy assholes who will treat you badly In this episode, we blow apart this myth and show why UNIQUE PAIRINGS are the ultimate secret to attraction, and what you MUST look for in the guy you choose for a long-term relationship. Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey

Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate. How about you? It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.” Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue with her boyfriend. Like many, she found herself in a long-distance relationship all of a sudden, as she and her guy self-isolate about 30 minutes from each other in their separate homes. I said to her, “That must be tough. Are you speaking every day?” Her answer revealed more than I anticipated... It quickly became clear to me that her needs were being ignored, and that she was ignoring a conversation she needed to have. Something I’m worried too many people are doing right now. If you’re in a similar situation, where yo

A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions. Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!" So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attraction.  --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey   

Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply. And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential. These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relevant whether you’re in the same room with someone, sending voice notes to a new guy, or connecting with a love interest over the phone as we all social distance. (They also apply to business, so you get two for one in today’s episode.) Can’t wait to see what you think. If you want the free training I mention in the episode so that you can have MASSIVE impact in the First 5 Minutes of Any Interaction, click here to download your copy → http://www.First5Guide.com

What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…). No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him. How does this happen?? It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction... Get Matt's free confidence training at GetCoreConfidence.com 

I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing. Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral. Well, at least I am. And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeling intense melancholy about the situation. (I’m also sick of being taunted by home workout videos I’m not actually doing.) Anyway. If you can relate to any of this, I made this episode for you. I certainly haven’t got this all figured out. And you probably haven’t either. But I think there are some very manageable ways we can feel a little better right now, and release the pressure of the unrealistic expectations many of us are putting on ourselves in what is already a very difficult time. I explain them in this podcas

Time for a coronavirus Q&A! Today we're doing something a little different.  We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to dive into the mailbox and hear about YOUR experiences dating in the time of corona!  Topics include: being alone during a break up, how to love being single, and moving love forward when you can't leave the house.  Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Download the FREE video training at GetCoreConfidence.com  

What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going to have in 2020. This crisis is impacting people all over the world to varying degrees. And with how rapidly it is evolving, I have wanted to hold off on wading in with my opinions until I really felt I had something to say. Alongside all manner of life-related issues people are asking me about, they are, of course, eager to hear my answers to their love life questions during this time: How can I date during this time of social distancing? Should I move in with my ex so that I’m not alone in this time? How do I keep my (now) long-distance relationship alive? How can I handle living with someone I’ve never spent this much time with prior to isolating with them? How will I get through this if I feel totally alone? Whether you’re single and looking to meet someone special, or dating someone you can’t physically be with right now, or even if you’re in the middle of h

“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?” It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this episode is for you. It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move on. P.S. I had the best time with Ashley ( and Rayna on the Girls Gotta Eat Podcast! Tap here to subscribe on iTunes! Follow the @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. - Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey - Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the free guide to dating after heartbreak at 3SecretsToLove.com!     

What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable problems? As we face the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, Matt had a powerful conversation with renowned entrepreneur, speaker and author Ed Mylett (@EdMylett) to talk about what this means for us and how we can be a for for good in this crisis. In this episode we cover: What health routines Ed is using to keep fit while remaining indoors Better questions you can ask yourself to reframe moments of crisis How to do good when others are panicking (even if it's just for one person) What lessons we can learn from losing our usual comforts How to use this moment to set yourself up for a better future Follow Ed's podcast "The Ed Mylett Show" on iTunes.  Download Matt's free training at GetCoreConfidence.com Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey  

Ever been hurt or betrayed?   Maybe someone broke your trust, cheated, or took your love for granted...   If so, I’m really sorry. The pain that can come from heartbreak is unlike anything else. It’s sickening. But, there is something even more heartbreaking than heartbreak itself: Allowing the ghosts of the past to trick you into giving up on your next great love story.   If you’re finding it hard to open yourself up to love again… If you are spending your life avoiding rejection right now instead of going after what you really want…   If being vulnerable and letting your guard down scares you to death…   This new video is for you. It’s natural to want to protect your heart…   But if constantly playing defense is preventing you from meeting the REAL love of your life, you’ll never get to see just how much happiness your future still has in store for you. Come on. We’ve got this, you and I.   Let’s be courageous together. No more holding yourself back.   Let’s live!   If you KNOW it's time to finally transfor