Parent Driven Development

Parent Driven Development Episode 067: Goodbye, for now. 1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast Imposter syndrome Multiple purposes to be an effective parent Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques Ability to relate with one another 8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast There is no one way to parent You’ll continue to grow as a parent You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different 13:30 What would we have done differently? Earlier sponsorship Episode format 16:15 Parting words for listeners Thank you!! You’re doing a great job. 17:17 Final genius and fail moments Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her. Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident. KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helpe

Parent Driven Development 66: Finding a new job during the pandemic. Welcome, Jean Hsu! Jean Hsu (https://twitter.com/jyhsu) is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs (https://www.range.co/) and Co-founder of Co Leadership (https://coleadership.com/), which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it. 0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic Desire strikes for leadership The hiring process 5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over 7:30 What would Jean do differently now? Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other Hybrid mix of in-person and rem

Parent Driven Development Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne Welcome, Felienne! Felienne (https://twitter.com/Felienne) is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain (https://www.felienne.com/book)” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research. 0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education? Research field towards programming education Love of kids 3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand Relevant for professionals Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases 6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids Learn their preferences Ch

Parent Driven Development Episode 064: Moving and Renovating 0:30 Moving and renting realities KWu moves Allison’s home renovations Preparation before the kids 4:30 Toys Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind) 10:05 Establishing new house rules Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes Furniture socks (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Furniture caster cups (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Respect and Take Care of Things (https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607) Learning to get along book series (https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/) 18:35 Caution police in new house Acceptance is key Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) 22:40 Genius and fail moments KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrot

Parent Driven Development Episode 063: Fear in Parenting 0:40 Fear and stress of parenting From independent… to having dependents Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent 2:50 Decision making process High alert, more burden than non-parents Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids Background buzz of constant anxiety 6:40 Different stresses Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards Trying to avoid helicopter parenting Screen interest, programming, and patience 10:55 Big anxieties Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents How to foster new sibling relationships Siblings Without Rivalry (https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212) - book How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn 21:35 Genius and

Parent Driven Development 062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years! Episode Highlights KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments! 1:30 Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means 3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler 7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda 10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu 13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber 14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman 15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark 18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy 19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments 22:40 Genius / fails Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa

Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids 1:48 Welcome, DHH (https://twitter.com/dhh) David (https://dhh.dk/) is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man. 2:50 Security concerns Social Media COVID times Parenting boundaries 13:45 Privacy Picture surplus Authenticity 16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web The highlight parenting reel Avoid the humble brag as a parent Internet jousts DHH recommended books: The Myth of the Spoiled Child (https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1609190913&sr=8-1) - Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards (https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816) - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child (https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517) - Ned Johnson 26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids Capitalism Against artificial c

Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys Subculture for wooden toys The Nugget couch (https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget) Parents become hyper focused on specific products Careful what your Google How to choose your Facebook groups The Social Dilemma (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0) Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful.. Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases The lottery Lucie's List (https://www.lucieslist.com/) Pandemic toys for the New Year More pressure for parents Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” Parents: You are doing a GREAT job. Genius / Fails KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well. Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on

Parent Driven Development 059: Hiring and Interviewing Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. 01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech Jess writes a book and gets a new job How to reduce bias in interviewing process 03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers Take-home vs pairing session Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario 6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings 09:50 How to access talent Everyway is flawed Take-home - kids constantly interrupting Paired - many engineers are introverted Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt 13:30 Bias How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias Allison asks about parental leave,

Parent Driven Development Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays Welcome Brandon! Brandon Hays (https://twitter.com/tehviking) is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college. 02:40 Brandon's co-parenting Starting with traditional gender roles Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work.. The invisible work becomes more visible Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids 06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was no

Parent Driven Development Episode 057: Virtual School 03:04 Welcome to Parent Driven Development (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) 03:30 Virtual school with school age children Kindergarten, middle school, high school Missing out on the life experiences Pros and cons 05:25 Exposure to other students Not enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats Teachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class Tough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher 11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school First week, very hands on, but less and less over time Kids have learned to adapt quite quickly 14:00 Extra hands to help Parents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school Extra help definitely makes a difference 15:45 Homework Losing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers No take home HW for kindergarten State assessments Perk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions 21:45 Teacher Props! Powe

Parent Driven Development Episode 056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager of All Our Kin (http://www.allourkin.org/). All Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life. Jessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter. 00:58 Welcome, Jessica Sager (https://twitter.com/JessicaSagerAOK)! Paul Tough: Helping Children Succeed (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1328915425/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1328915425&linkCode=as2&t

Parent Driven Development Episode 055: Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) 02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey! Mijha Godfrey is the founder of Jambo Books (https://twitter.com/jambobooks). Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in Jambo Books (https://jambobooks.com/) focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color. Mijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion. 04:04 The importance of a diverse library Not letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday 05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children? Yesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infa

Parent Driven Development Episode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids 01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change? Flexibility + time off Managing parents during emergencies Building resilience within a company 08:18 Chaos monkey Applying the method to people Setting quality expectations that everyone agrees on 10:45 Benefits are important Healthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc… 12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about Salary should fit one's needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces What employees care about matters! Managers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential Standing meetings 17:30 Time management Planning interruptions as a parent Coding flow Essential reminders Working nights and weekends by choice 27:57 Genius / fail moments Chris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius Chris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping

Parent Driven Development Episode 053: The Parenting Playbook (http://v.fastcdn.co/u/418c7173/35282756-0-The-Parenting-Playbo.pdf) with Anna Mackenzie Sponsor: Nurture Life (https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social_paid&utm_campaign=conversion&utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&pc=PARENTDRIVEN) Welcome, Anna Mackenzie (https://twitter.com/whatsupanna) Anna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In

Parent Driven Development Episode 052: Taking Breaks 02:16 Taking breaks as a parent, how have you been coping? Is everyone taking breaks? Chris breaks with home projects Allison opts for a few full days off, rather than breaking during her day KWu dives into Downton Abbey (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004KAQQ5E/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004KAQQ5E&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b55bfd713a79c6abf4f9c6ea8e4c60c6) 07:32 Productive breaks Increasing your home ROI Decreasing internet time during “breaks” Home improvements 09:15 A break crisis! Dinner Time chaos How syncing self care time with business trips is no longer an option Making an intention plan for a stay-cation 15:35 Planning for fun Animal Crossing (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SL6ZXBL/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07SL6ZXBL&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=3ee6c16aa6d2b59ebde325b35a4a11c9) Making lists 18:43 Choosing not to make the adult decision Binging on

Parent Driven Development Episode 051: Allowances for Parents with Scott Hanselman (https://www.hanselman.com/) Welcome, Scott Hanselman (https://twitter.com/shanselman) Scott is a programmer, teacher, and speaker. He works out of his home office in Portland, Oregon for the Web Platform Team at Microsoft. Scott has been blogging for 10 years and enjoys blogging about technology, culture, gadgets, diversity, code, and the web. Scott is excited about community, social equity, media, entrepreneurship and above all, the open web. 02:49 Allowances for kids and parents Father of two boys The large “A”, and the little “a” Partner side-eyeing How to make online banking unscrollable Sunday cash withdraw 06:01 The mental shift around money How much money can you spend without consulting your partner? 08:05 Marriage first, kids second Intentionality, goals, visions - what’s the plan? Scott’s marital mission statement* - we’re on the same side 10:43 Cash only for allowance The feeling money brings Teaching our childre

Parent Driven Development Episode 050: Agile Household (https://yvonnemarcus.kartra.com/page/xt271) with Yvonne Marcus (http://www.yvonnemarcus.com/) Yvonne is a home system strategist, mom of two, lover of Girl Scout cookies, cake, craving song parodies and getting outdoors with the family. She is on a mission to revolutionize everyones view of #MomLife. She is the creator of your Agile Home, a four-week course that looks to get your family together, feel like a valued member of the team, instilling autonomy and having fun! 00:50 Welcome, Yvonne Marcus (https://twitter.com/agileyvonne) Background in TV production How Agile Home came about Bringing Agile into her home Establishing family values 07:10 When and how is Agile executed in Yvonne’s house? WFH, toddlers and setting values Run as SCRUM (https://amzn.to/3f8TYaW) The sprint process, and day-to-day process 10:40 Are the kids involved? Daily SCRUM board: white board (https://amzn.to/2BGMQVC) + Scrum board home toolset (https://amzn.to/2D96yJX) They parti

Parent Driven Development Episode 049: Arit Amana (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) 01:50 Welcome, Arit! Software engineer Mother of two, 8 and 3 years-old Background in public health 02:50 Panel check-in Pandemic times Adjustment for the kids, work and home life Stress level through the roof 06:20 Childcare Responder Duty while WFH The younger the child, the more work required for the parent Calendar essential (https://amzn.to/30V9sKz) for parent and kids Animal crossing (https://amzn.to/3hE5EEa) is the new obsession and a MUST 18:35 Arit jumps into a new role - Dev Community Open source coding Async communication style Flexible during the day with her youngest child Arit’s older son helps by taking care of his school work on his own 23:45 Work-life boundaries Allison works few weeks on, to take a day or two off 24:55 Genius / Fail moments Arit has success by taking the kids out for a walk after work that get her youngest sleeping through the night #genius Kwu’s daughter has some spit up discovered on her cri

Parent Driven Development Episode 048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz) 00:23 Welcome, Darcy (https://twitter.com/Darcy_Lockman)! Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz). Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City. 00:39 Orgins of All The Rage (https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz) Child care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads? Why are we living like this? The impact of patriarchy on all of us 04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture Women carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35% The feminine is looked down in society Communality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic Women join the workforce, but keep up