Parent Driven Development

Parent Driven Development Episode 027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic Show Background Resources Momo challenge: The real victims of the hoax are the parents who believe it (https://www.independent.co.uk/news/long_reads/momo-challenge-internet-viral-hoax-parents-a8806836.html) Momo Is as Real as We’ve Made Her (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/02/style/momo-mania-hoax.html) A pediatrician exposes suicide tips for children hidden in videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids (https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/02/24/pediatrician-exposes-suicide-tips-children-hidden-videos-youtube-youtube-kids/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e8215c20ac71) 01:29 Firsthand Experience? Mandy's daughter had no idea about any of this until it was brought to her attention. 03:17 Momo Challenges (maybe?) Explained 06:11 What do we do as parents to protect our kids? Do we lock them down from consuming all the media, or do we let them consume it and deal with it? Educating our kids and guiding them when things come up. Checking in with th

Parent Driven Development Episode 026: Breastfeeding 01:21 Making Feeding Decisions KWu and Allison both breastfed. Mandy did not. Feeling tied down vs feeling guilt. 13:32 Things They Don't Tell You Nursing clothes suck. Lactation happens even if you don't breastfeed! So many people struggle with nursing issues. Hormone shifts as you ween. 19:05 Navigating Conflicting Information Everyone has an opinion. There is no one way to do it. 30:30 Breastfeeding in Public When kids play with your boobs. Covers are B.S. 33:18 Toddler Talk Feeding around siblings. 34:34 Health Benefits and Science 36:57 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son stole her husband's credit card! (#Fail) Allison: Forgot about the Kinder Egg. (#Fail) Mandy: Youth/Adult Bowling League fun. (#Genius) Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com (mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (http

Parent Driven Development Episode 025: Girls in STEM 00:34 Why Joulez (https://www.joulez.co/)? Getting girls and women engaged in technology Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket The Juelez Formula: Identity Vocabulary Skills Tribe 06:05 Designing Into Motivation Fixed vs Growth Mindset (https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/) Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach (https://ceeo.tufts.edu/) Marrying fun and education Programming and Computer Programming 15:35 How can parents help? Context Vocabulary Building with them 22:38 Gender Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM Where are the toys that build empathy in boys? Providing opportunity for people of all sorts As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do 33:41 Genius / Fail Moments Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail) Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius) KWu: Buying a "Baby's First Chinese New Year" book....when it was h

Parent Driven Development Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code 01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding 02:58 Teaching younger vs older audiences 03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space Scratch (https://scratch.mit.edu/) 05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy The Hour of Code (https://hourofcode.com/us) 08:16 Kevin's background in coding 08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code 13:31 Resources & Tools Glitch (https://glitch.com/) CodeCombat (https://codecombat.com/) 15:24 Is Minecraft (https://minecraft.net/en-us/) useful? 18:11 Next level resources Codecademy (https://www.codecademy.com/) Learn Python the Hard Way (https://learnpythonthehardway.org/) TwilioQuest (https://www.twilio.com/quest/welcome) 19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away) Events, Hackathons, and Conferences THAT Conference (https://www.thatconference.com/) 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass scre

** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children. Parent Driven Development Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective 00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family... When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions Code-switching (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching) 12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions! Elf on the Shelf (https://www.elfontheshelf.com/) NORAD Santa Tracker (https://www.noradsanta.org/) 17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting When kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much. You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren) 25:31 The Reality When no one pays attention to your wishes Thoughts about the future 31:05 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius) Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius) KWu: Her son blew h

Parent Driven Development Episode 022: Single Parenting 00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common... ... but events can feel ostracizing. Logistics are hard to navigate. There are full-time and half-time single parents. 04:06 It takes a village Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members) Non-nuclear families / modern family situations. 10:55 Dating as a single parent Introducing kids to significant others. When is it appropriate? When kids do/don't get attached to partners. 21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting Drama: engaging and avoiding. Making decisions solo vs with someone else. Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent. Questions from kids as they get older. Sometimes you just want to quit! 35:15 Supporting single parents Talk to them. Don't ask intrusive questions. Don't assume single parents live off of child support. Just don't assume, period. 39:43 Genius / Fail Moments Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#

Parent Driven Development Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents 00:25 Defining Self-Care Refilling your energy bucket. Naps. Taking care of your human body. Parenting yourself. 04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules Treating yourself with respect and kindness. Doing things for the good of the family. 10:56 Parenting Identities Time spent caregiving vs adulting. Having different strengths as parents. Having a network of "other" parents and families. "Intentional Community." 17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions Setting your environment. Meditation. Having non-distracting routines and activities. Cooking. Creative outlets: Music, etc. 27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort Yes Spaces (https://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/play-space-inspiration/). Ignoring tantrums. 30:49 Genius / Fail Moments KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius) Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius) Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius) Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#

Parent Driven Development Episode 020: Fertility Struggles 00:23 Welcome, Adam Cuppy (https://twitter.com/AdamCuppy)! Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival (https://www.osfashland.org/) before making his way into creative direction for Dutch Bros. Coffee (https://www.dutchbros.com/), where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded Zeal (https://codingzeal.com/). When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage. 01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles Adam and his wife tried for

Parent Driven Development Episode 019: Being Adults 00:25 Welcome, Jonan Scheffler (https://twitter.com/thejonanshow)! Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at Heroku (https://www.heroku.com/) and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of RubyTogether (https://rubytogether.org/) and all-around swell human being! We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's RubyConf (http://rubyconf.com/) in Los Angeles. 01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points Conferences are NOT vacations, y'all! Traveling as a job. Being present at home. Partying is WORK. 11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home Facetiming, calling, audio messaging. 18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World 25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away 29:30 Self-Care While Away Treats! Massage! Movies on the plane! Room service! Fancy coffee! Tattoos!?! 32:34 Genius / Fail Moments Allison: Her son drew her a picture "so Mommy doesn't scream as mu

Parent Driven Development Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents 00:24 Welcome, Anne Halsall (https://twitter.com/annekate) and Sara Mauskopf (https://twitter.com/sm)! Anne is the co-founder & head of product of at Winnie (https://winnie.com/). Sara is the CEO. 01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children Great app to use for travel! Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see. 03:12 Content Moderation and Quality Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice. You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. 05:23 Gathering Information Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family. 06:23 Monetization Winnie is venture-backed. It's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all. 08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting Parents ar

Parent Driven Development Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries 00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand)! Chris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp (https://www.hashicorp.com/) where he works on Terraform Enterprise (https://www.hashicorp.com/products/terraform), a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform (https://www.terraform.io/). As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat (https://www.redhat.com/). He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN (https://www.meetup.com/ruby-mn/?_cookie-check=tTPtT3O5bUmbVkoy), as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack (http://msptech.herokuapp.com/). Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-

Parent Driven Development Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids 01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion The Good Place (https://www.nbc.com/the-good-place) (Josh) 05:56 Music Avoid "Kids" Music!! Bee Gees - Stayin' Alive (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNFzfwLM72c) (Allison) Apple Music (https://www.apple.com/music/) (Chris) 08:54 Games A great bluffing game is Sheriff of Nottingham (https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/157969/sheriff-nottingham) (Chris) Go Fish (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go_Fish) (Allison) Chutes and Ladders (https://www.amazon.com/Chutes-Ladders-Game-Amazon-Exclusive/dp/B00000DMF6) (Allison) Fish Stix (https://www.amazon.com/Peaceable-Kingdom-Award-Winning-Fish/dp/B002CG87Z0) (Allison) How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun) (http://blankdrums.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-to-make-candy-land-tolerable-even.html?m=1) (Josh) What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders (http://blog.minitab.com/blog/fun-with-statistics/what-are-the-odds-chutes-and-ladders) (Josh) B

Parent Driven Development Episode 015: On-Call Schedules 00:20 Welcome, Alyson van Hardenberg (https://twitter.com/akvanh)! Alyson is a Software Engineer at Honeycomb (http://Honeycomb.io) and the mother of two boys. 02:41 Pager or Baby? Which do you choose? It was a non-issue for Alyson. One of Honeycomb's managers, before even hiring Alyson, said that she'd take Alyson's pager during "off-duty" hours as an added responsibility. They'll check in and reevaluate when her son is one. Equal does not mean fair across teams. 05:07 Having On-Call Schedule Discussions Special Accommodations Scheduling Around On-Call Time On-Call Parenting vs On-Call Job-ing Working Remotely and Boundaries Around Work 11:33 Living Your Life On-Call Doubling Up In Pairs Escalation Policies On-Call Onboarding Processes Handling Outings On-Call 22:46 On-Call Team Expectations Triage vs Fixing 26:04 On-Call Stories & Experiences 31:26 Hours of Coverage 6PM - 9PM = The Worst Parenting Hours 33:46 Results of the 1-Year Check-in and Though

Parent Driven Development Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies 00:16 Welcome, Tess (https://twitter.com/GriffinTess) and Sean Griffin (https://twitter.com/sgrif)! Tess is a Site Engineer at GitHub (https://github.com). Sean is a developer at Shopify (https://www.shopify.com/), renowned Rails committer, the creator of the Diesel Framework (http://diesel.rs/), host of The Yak Shave (http://yakshave.fm/) podcast, and a former host of The Bike Shed (http://bikeshed.fm/) podcast. 02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to Ruby Central (http://rubycentral.org/) conferences and Rust Belt Rust (https://www.rust-belt-rust.com/)! 09:56 Evening Childcare Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like UrbanSitter (https://www.urbansitter.com/) and Care.com (https://www.care.com/) are options in a pinch. Conferences that offer child/kid-frien

Parent Driven Development Episode 013: Babies at Work?! 00:15 Welcome, Leah Silber! (https://twitter.com/wifelette) Leah is the CEO of Tilde Inc. (https://www.tilde.io/) She is also an organizer of EmberConf (https://emberconf.com/), RustConf (https://rustconf.com/) and RailsConf (https://railsconf.com/), and Ember.js Core Team (https://www.emberjs.com/team/) Member, a jQuery Core Team (https://jquery.org/team/) alum, author of Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences (https://leanpub.com/eventdriven/), and all around technophile. 01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They? Don't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2. 04:05 Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird (https://hackernoon.com/babies-at-work-its-weird-that-it-s-weird-b285b070d456) In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks ab

Parent Driven Development Episode 012: Traveling with Kids 00:48 The Great Screen Debate Today's particular panelists are all about screens while traveling as long as it's not detracting from the travel experience. Everyone agrees that screens are a great way to keep kids occupied and quiet. 08:09 Transportation Challenges, Woes, and Genius Tips When your kid gets flagged on her first plane ride... TSA Pre√ (https://www.tsa.gov/precheck) (Worth its weight in gold!!) Download shows to devices in advance Have a variety of activities (besides screens) Hotel Paper & Pens Books Cheerios ... and a Walkman (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walkman)? Building Up Good Will with People Around You: Is it worth bribing others (with chocolate??) and socializing or should they just deal with you traveling with your kiddo(s)? Use Car Services like Lyft! (https://www.lyft.com/) 24:25 Transportation + Car Seats (Deserves its own conversation, obviously.) Amazon a cheap one + have delivered to your destination then donate when

Parent Driven Development Episode 011: Being a Trans Parent 00:30 We're joined by our friend Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) today We've been soliciting questions from our audience which will help guide our conversation today 02:00 How do you help young children who want to categorize everything in to boys and girls? How do we talk about boy parts and girl parts and gender identity especially with young children? It's a complex topic. Different children classify in different ways. Does it talk to how we socialize children? It changes when your children interact with other children in school. Science has proven that gender identity is mostly internal and it is in flux until children are around 3 and then they demonstrate more behaviors that can be associated with a specific gender. 07:50 How much do body parts relate to gender identity? Talking about body parts and explaining that you can't tell what a person is by looking at them. You need to ask, 9:00 Children see the world in different ways There's a ne

Parent Driven Development Episode 010: Doing Good with Kids, Live Episode 00:50 We're LIVE from Ruby For Good (https://rubyforgood.org/) 02:30 How do we make our kids do good? School is a good place to start. There are lots of options for kids and parents to start out. We talk about different activities at different ages, preschool to high school 03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference Treat it as any other vendor Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc. 5:30 Various programs are mentioned For Girl Scout cookies (https://www.girlscouts.org/en/cookies/all-about-cookies.html) you can purchase a cookie to have sent to troops overseas Girls on the Run (https://www.girlsontherun.org/) each session has a theme related to "good" things 6:40 For young children, focus on having the conversation What does it mean to do good things? We talk about PJ Library (https://pjlibrary.org/home) and Tikkun Olam (https://e

Parent Driven Development Episode 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences 00:25 We're joined by Abby Phoenix (https://twitter.com/aphoenix) today 01:00 When did childcare at Ruby Central events start? started in 2015 and have now been at 6 conferences The intention is to always have childcare at RailsConf (https://railsconf.com/) and RubyConf (https://rubyconf.org/) 03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference Treat it as any other vendor Go to the conference venue and ask for recommendations Ask for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc. 6:10 Smaller conferences Smaller conferences are a little more difficult but also easier because if it's in the same location every year you can use the same provider year after year 7:30 Very important that childcare is based in the city of the conference They know how to get around They have alternative options They are on time They have the equipment they need 9:10 How many people use childcare at conferences? Typically 5-7 kids